Why was my post deleted?

[BlackMilk]

Hi,

I posted a comment on the AIBU thread about the woman babysitting her friend’s baby and it got deleted. I genuinely have no clue what guidelines I’ve broken. Would you be able to tell me please?

I’ve read that thread and it sounds like your post was much worse than any of the others. It was attacking the OP. Calling her ridiculous is going to get your post deleted.

But this poster DID personally attack the OP, if you see her further posts on this thread. That will explain why it was deleted.

The OP of that thread did not deserve to be called ridiculous.

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You must know the difference between 'robust discussion' and insulting someone.

It wasn't even a thread that invited robust discussion, like someone wanting to discuss religion, politics or the welfare state. It was someone with a dilemma about a friend. There was simply no need to insult them.

I'd like to see more of those kinds of comments deleted actually. They add nothing to the discussion or the site as a whole. They are just one poster lashing out at another for no real reason.

Yes, I know - she was asking why the posts calling the OP's friend a 'fucking leech' had been allowed to stand while her post calling the OP ridiculous was deleted.

It's because the 'leech' comment wasn't reported I would imagine.

@BlackMilk As has been said, it can be the way you word things.

'I think you many need to do some research OP, and learn more about this..'

.........is fine.

'You sound as thick as pigshit OP!'

.........not so fine.

It can be hard to know what to say, and what not to say, but some people will report a post if they see personal insults. (And calling someone thick is rude.)

I mean calling someone a fucking leech is rude, but if someone doesn't report it, then it will probably stay.

Hi there @BlackMilk . We've had a look back at the deletion. It will have been for the bit you describe here:

I did say she was being ridiculous (as in by getting over involved) and that I thought she must be enjoying the drama to come on here and give all the details.

We won't quote it again here but if you want to hit the report button on this post and drop us a line we can tell you what the exact wording was. It was deleted as a personal attack though. We can tell you a bit more if you want to drop us a note though, as we say. And, if you're ever unsure about a deletion, do always feel free to hit the report button and ask - we're happy to explain if it's ever not clear.