Important thread on sex on holiday while children supposedly sleeping pulled.

[ScrollingLeaves]

Dear Mumsnet,

Just now a thread on AIBU about sex in hotel rooms with ‘sleeping’ child was closed at tge OP’s request.

It was the OP who asked for this very recent and active thread to be closed, but I want to alert you to what a pity this is as this thread could have been helping prevent child abuse. Couldn’t there be a way of anonymising the OP question?

The assumption is that while sleeping in the same hotel room as a child, they won’t know if the adults have sex because of the presumption they are asleep/will not wake up.

Many answers show children are awake or do wake up, and can be traumatised or affected.

A child safe guarding professional answered that this is child SA.

Meanwhile the thread showed this is not an uncommon occurrence.

Not only is this child sexual abuse, but mothers/stepmothers may be being coerced into doing this.

Bump

What a bizarre decision. There were no identifying features at all. Are we allowed to have threads deleted because we don’t like the answers?

It really was a shame. This is the very season where huge numbers of parents who have not thought this through could have been warned off this practice.

Hello there @ScrollingLeaves,

Thanks for flagging this.

As a rule we try not to delete whole threads but we do make exceptions like we did in this case, the reasons for which, as we are sure you will understand, we cannot get into.

Unfortunately we cannot anonymise the thread as per your suggestion as this would mean reinstating a thread we already agreed to remove for the OP however you are at liberty to start your own thread about this very important issue.

MNHQ

But the OP literally had a throwaway name that was a play on the word pseudonym if I remember correctly and had posted maybe 2 updates. How was it identifying? I agree with the OP that pulling that thread which was genuinely important and educational was a bad move and starting a new thread on the topic won't have the same impact, obviously. You say you try not to pull entire threads but you do it all the time, on 'privacy concerns' which in most cases are totally spurious.

I find the arbitrary MN guidelines to thread removal infuriating. I started a thread (under a different user name) which ended up with other posters sharing links to news articles referencing the town/school in my post. It identified my home town and child’s school- for these reasons I asked for it to be removed. MNHQ refused with the reasoning that it would be unfair to the posters who had spent time commenting.

I would try to start a new thread on the subject but don’t feel it would come across as being as current and urgent as the original one.