So I (female 27) had a lodger move in (male 27) who I knew through mutual friends. Fantastic guy. Very generous, relatively tidy, thoughtful and quiet. I have a partner who recently moved in with me, I spoke to my lodger to see how he would feel about this. They have always got on well but I thought about knocking the price down by £100 (was £600 now it’s £500) to compensate that there would be an additional person living there. It’s not a big house by any means and we all share one bathroom.
About two/three weeks after my partner moved in, my lodger announces that he has a girlfriend and has been seeing her for about 6 months. They work together. He asked if he could have her over occasionally and I said yes that’s absolutely fine. I didn’t lay down any “ground rules” as there has always been a lot of respect there but the caveat is that she is 19 and lives with her parents and much younger siblings. Naturally she wants to be over here where there’s freedom.
She is friendly enough. The first two weeks she came over two nights a week. Absolutely fine. Fast forward to week 5 of her coming over, she’s over four nights, sometimes five.
I’ve gone from living on my own to living with three additional people in a short space of time and I feel like she’s always here. I work from home so I notice their presence a lot during their days off. Sometimes I’ll have friends over and they just sit in the living room.
I feel a bit peeved as I knocked £100 to compensate for my partner and the reduced space. When he announced his new Mrs, he spoke to our mutual friend and said that he’s not the sort of person to want to live in his girlfriends pockets and that he needs space. Plus he didn’t want to annoy me as he loves living here. If only this was true.
I think he’s aware she’s now coming over a bit too much as he bought me a plant the other day and made us all dinner where we sat down as a four. Again - fantastic guy, I can’t fault him. I just need my space in what is a two bedroom terrace.
I don’t really know what to say. My partner and I really like the lodger but the house is just too small. Bills aren’t really an issue it’s just privacy.
Should I just suck it up? Am I being pathetic?