Thread stopped and account deactivated why?

[Fedup50plus]

Really shocked to find when trying to help my daughter with her end of uni business plan (alternative to a dissertation) my thread has been stopped and my account deactivated. No email, no explanation even though the responses received were really supportive. She just wanted a short survey completing on children's shoes.

Even received input from helpful mumsnetters on how to edit the survey slightly to make it easier to read and maybe get more responses.

Really disappointed with Mumsnet. Have no idea why they did this.

Was it this one or is this a different one?

I am creating a children's shoe brand and need parents thoughts and opinions on buying shoes for children! http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/costoff_living/4734345-i-am-creating-a-childrens-shoe-brand-and-need-parents-thoughts-and-opinions-on-buying-shoes-for-children

That's my daughter having joined herself trying again. I hope they don't do it to her too. It would help if we knew why.

You're not allowed to do that OP. Did you have a read of the t&C's?

I wondered if someone had said something on the thread that was offensive. Or maybe they actually think this is unsolicited advertising. Who knows. She's had such a tough time at uni having joined just before the pandemic this is the last thing and she's done.

It's classed as spam and it is spam. You have to pay to advertise on MN.

I dont think thatS allowed. I did see the thread and it looked like marketing to me. You need permission AFAIK.

It's clearly against the guidelines op!

Got to admit I didn't read the T's&C's does anyone? So how does the recommendations to buy things work then that I get every week. I have to admit I have bought things as a result.

Still don't see how a survey for a uni project, the participating in which is optional is classed as spam.

Companies pay for the recommendations, that's how it works.

Talk Guidelines www.mumsnet.com/i/netiquette

Was it in ‘Surveys’?

Well if you click on the report button, the first option is to report spam/advertising/research, so there's a clue there that it's not allowed.

I have to stress it's a fictitious brand. She isn't really selling shoes. It's theoretical. She had to create a logo, marketing and get the research done to show she is capable of doing this for fashion brands she might want to be employed by. She's on a fashion management degree. You can't actually buy anything from her. I did explain that!

Didn't know there was a surveys thread. I did look. In the end posted in "education" because that's what it is. Okay fair enough. Personally hate spam so I get it. Shame though when it was clearly flagged as student research.

You are way too involved with your daughters uni work!

I agree you shouldn't be so involved with her daughters project! And imagine if every person doing a dissertation wanted a survey on here.

There’s a surveys section - you just need to ask permission.

Surely you can see that MNers don’t want to be inundated with student assignments in Active?!

You shouldn't be doing this for her. She should be.

It was probably reported for not being in NFP surveys.

But can you imagine if even half (or less) of us did the same? With their multiple children? Every time they have a project.

Thats all there would be. Often the reasons things aren’t allowed is because if loads start doing it, it ruins the boards.

Hi there @Fedup50plus . Thanks for getting in touch. Yes, as others have said, we ask for posts like this to go in the surveys topic, so it's likely your thread was picked up as spam by our system or reported as such. Looks like your daughter has got a thread going in surveys now so hopefully she'll get some more responses there. Good luck to her with her uni project.

Thank you everyone for your valuable feedback, I too have learned something. My daughter now has quite a few responses, over 100 so far, for her uni project primary research so my thanks go to everyone who helped and posted their advice and comments all of which I am sure she will reflect on and also learn from for the future.

Whilst I appreciate @Bellalalala's comments I can assure you I would not do this unless it was really needed. My DD has had a largely horrid experience at uni not all because of Covid and I can honestly say I've been very worried about her at times. For those of you whose children are about to go to uni this year my advice would be keep in regular contact. Universities will tell you they have everything in place to support your kids. In reality they're only interested in the fees. Student suicide rates are shocking and most students are reporting it's not the experience they were expecting after A levels. Probably a whole new thread itself. But let's face it what does meet our expectations these days, however young people very much need our support and encouragement to have the motivation to continue and that's what I was doing as a mum.

The survey was of course optional and I say again thank you to those who took the time to respond and/or comment. It is very much appreciated.

Thanks again everyone.

Speaking generally. Sometimes I think this 'be kind' stuff has had a bad effect on our young. There is no resilience at all when they go into the real world, as we know can be a harsh place. I'm seeing kids still needing support and encouragement well past 25 who just crumple if something they find hard happens or feel someone's been mean to them.

Yes I've thought the same and have even referred to them as "snowflakes" but then I look back to that age and concede I had a lot more to look forward to, it was easy to get the money together for a deposit on a house and buy a car etc if you wanted. Now it's just a drudge. With disingenuous greedy employers wanting to pay minimum wage and control how long employees take to pee.

I also blame social media and the fact that it's given really nasty minded people a whole new way of making other people miserable.

And of course there's a difference between constructive and destructive criticism not to mention the emotional intelligence that's so lacking in society to tailor communication appropriately.

My dear mum always used to say if you can't say anything nicely don't say anything at all. I think she was right.