Mumsnet won't delete my posts!!

[bekindandgrateful]

I didn't know I couldn't delete my own posts, I have put some information out here and I regret it. Please tell me how I can have these deleted? I have emailed and reported the posts and they haven't been deleted! This isn't fair

This happened to me, where I posted about what was potentially an identifying situation (not an abusive partner, so that must be even more scary, OP), because I wanted advice. Throughout the thread, several posters said things like “I bet the Daily Mail gets hold of this” which made me nervous, because although posting on mumsnet is one thing, an article in the Mail potentially reaches a much wider audience therefore greater chance of being recognised. I’d also had a name change fail during the thread when posting quickly so it tied me to previous information. Yes, my own fault for starting the thread and failing with the name change. However if I posted on eg. Facebook or Twitter i’d have ownership over deleting my own posts. Anyway, when I reported my own thread and asked for deletion, Mumsnet replied saying no, they only deleted things that were, and I quote, “libellous, racist or otherwise break the law”. I had to report three times, pleading my case that I was concerned about my anonymity, before they (reluctantly) deleted it. I would definitely think twice now before starting a thread which could be in any way identifying.

I have posted in Night watch on behalf of the OP - hopefully one of the gang will be along soon to hide the thread until MNHQ roll in tomorrow.

Chill, they will take it down. I'll report for you as well x

people are not being kind to the poster

Agree, some of the posts come across as a bit nobbish when OP is obviously upset.

Which posts do you want deleted though? Which section are they on?

@bekindandgrateful

They should delete it if you ask regardless of their opinions. This is dangerous for people who don't understand how Mumsnet works

That would give free rein for people to post all kinds of shit and then just delete it.

There is no point in other people reporting this it won't get it looked at quicker

There's no other thread showing up under the OPs username, however removing a thread because a poster has had a change of heart is outwith NW remit. As pp said it'll need to wait til MNHQ review it

@bekindandgrateful don’t panic. MNHQ absolutely do delete posts if you’ve posted identifying information or you think you might be at risk from an abusive ex partner. They won’t be working now though you’ll have to wait until morning.

I had my whole posting history deleted once. It was hundreds, if not thousands of posts, because of a situation with a stalker.

Not sure what is happening but nothing is coming up at all when I search for the OP's user name - including this thread.

@ANightWatcher

There is no point in other people reporting this it won't get it looked at quicker

There's no other thread showing up under the OPs username, however removing a thread because a poster has had a change of heart is outwith NW remit. As pp said it'll need to wait til MNHQ review it

The OP is saying she thinks the posts put her at risk - presumably from the abusive partner. I think that is in Night Watch remit to hide those posts until MNHQ can have a look tomorrow? I assume the posts or thread of concern are in a different user name to the one she is using for this thread.

As I said there's nothing coming up under her user name therefore even if it was putting her at risk there's not a thing we can do

@MrsMackesy

Not sure what is happening but nothing is coming up at all when I search for the OP's user name - including this thread.

I've just looked & there is nothing coming up for me either. Perhaps that means the OP's other thread isn't searchable? Or a glitch.

@bekindandgrateful - you need to post the user name or thread you are concerned about here or on the thread I have started for you in 'The Night watch' so that the volunteers can help you tonight. If you don't do that, it will have to wait until MNHQ are in the office tomorrow.

Looks like a glitch. I've tried a search under my NW & regular id and nothings coming up

I'm sure they'll do it soon @bekindandgrateful xxx

If nothing is appearing in searches it may be deleted by now.

OP, can you give ANightWatcher the link to thread, either via PM or email?

@GrandmasCat

If nothing is appearing in searches it may be deleted by now.

This thread doesn't appear either so.it appears to be a glitch

Yes, agree with what @ANightWatcher said - if you link to the thread/posts you're worried about then they can act on it and delete or at least hide the thread until morning when MN get a look at it.

OP does your abuser know your Mumsnet name and/or password? He’s not going to search through hundreds of posts to see if he can spot himself on here.

Change your phone passcode, make sure you haven’t got the facility for people to @ you, as that will send you emails. You can turn it off in your account settings I think. But make sure that he can’t access your phone or laptop either way, as you need to be able to access support and advice without worrying that he’ll see it. Lock down your privacy settings all over.

Sadly there are so many abusive men out there and their way of operating is pathetically similar, so the likelihood of him recognising himself (especially as he’ll probably deny that he’s done anything wrong) is pretty slim, so try not to worry unnecessarily. I know what it feels like, I’ve also overshared on occasion and wished I could delete. It’s annoying but hopefully your thread will drop off the active threads if you don’t go back to it, so it will be harder for anyone to find.

Plus side, if he does see your post, he’ll see that everyone thinks he’s a pathetic loser and that you should leave him.

@bekindandgrateful

They should delete it if you ask regardless of their opinions. This is dangerous for people who don't understand how Mumsnet works

Legally I don’t think they have to, the post becomes their property not yours or something like that.

They'll delete when they come on tomorrow I'm sure. I've had my whole posting history deleted in the past

It’ll be ok. I’ve seen things disappear in the middle of the night, so someone hides or deletes.

I’d never post anything you don’t want ‘out there’ screenshots can be taken, things can be shared before you can delete etc.