..... interested to hear views on this - whether I'm a sad paranoid old cow or justifiably concerned!
Basically, a close friend of my DH split with his girlfriend a few months ago - we stayed in touch with her as well as him as we had become quite close, holidaying together etc etc. She is still in love with ex and hopes to get back with him, she says, but he has someone else now.
She pops in to see us now and then for a drink and I have noticed how "animated" she seems to be when chatting to DH and how quiet she is when I am in the room - I shrugged it off, thinking i was being silly. However, a couple of Saturdays ago we were in a pub with her and some other friends - she had a little cry about her ex and, as usual, cried on DH's shoulder and had a hug, then she went off home in a cab. I borrowed DH's mobile to phone our own cab and a text message came through from her to him saying "I love you, xxx". I stormed back into the pub to show DH and he pleaded ignorance, saying he didn't know why she had sent it, assuring me she was probably just being friendly! I looked at his other messages and there weren't any from her. DH rang her the next day and asked her why she had sent it to him, she just laughed and said she always sends everyone loving text messages when she's a bit drunk and she hoped she hadn't offended me - by the way, she didn't send me a message on my phone!
Anyway, I forgot about it, until last night when DH casually mentioned that he had received about 8 text messages from her one afternoon last week. He showed them to me and they were mostly about her ex, but also very complimentary about DH and flattering, signing off with a big love and xx.
I just think this is all wrong - you don't send messages like that to friends hubbies do you! Particularly when she knew that the first message had upset me!
Warning bells are ringing - I don't think DH has done anything, or even intends to, but I can see he is hugely flattered by her attention and it scares me. It doesn't bloody help that she is in her 20's, long legged and olive skinned, while I, post babies, am about a stone overweight, and covered in stress-induced eczema!!
Sorry this is so long and boring but I needed to get it off my chest.
COPYIED AND PASTED SO YOU CAN DO IT AGAINXXX