Have you ever found someone on MN that you know IRL?

[SoLongAndThanksForAllTheChips]

I've found someone on here that I know. 100% sure it's them. They posted a story which they told me, almost word for word the same.

Few days later they posted quite a harrowing thing which they haven't told me about IRL.

WWYD? Tell them I know, or not?

PM (perhaps not on this nc) saying you think you recognise her from the first thread because but don't mention the second thread.

You might be wrong, still. Give her the opportunity to say it's coincidence; or to nc/scorched earth as necessary.

I recognised someone, PMed her because it was identifying, spoke briefly about it in the playground; we never brought it up again.

My brother spotted me, messaged to say "are you MrsH?!" I was grateful for the headsup and use a different nc to talk about my embarrassing medical condition / crush on the postman / criminal intentions.

Not. If they wanted you to know they'd have told you directly. Just hold that information to yourself and don't bring it up - it's her stuff to bring up not yours, she own it, you know? If she does mention it just react as you would have (I don't mean fake surprise, I mean sympathetically).

Am absolutely positive I know them. All the threads they comment on are about things which I would typically associate with that person. The sex, age and number of DCs is the same. The story was the same.

Ok good idea re the PM. Thank you.

@starsandstuff The only trouble is, now that I know, I'm worried I'll see more stuff which is personal and should be anonymous.

I could PM anonymously and just advise a name change.

They need to know their anonymity is compromised.

When I was pretty sure I'd recognised someone I pm'd them,after a name change cos I didn't really want them to know my MN name!
I thought they should have the option of name changing if they wanted to - because otherwise it may have given me access to info they mightn't have wanted me to know in RL
For a friend I'd just speak to them,but this was a friends child!

Good advice, thank you.

This might actually be me. I’ve used this username to post things which would be recognisable, and have recently posted about a situation with one of my children which I haven’t spoken to many people about IRL

Generally though I use other usernames if I don’t want people to connect it to me.