MN is a load of shit and all the posters are full of it

[ConnieDescending]

I came here as was fed up of the fluffiness on other parenting websites, the tickers, the over moderation of swear words and forceful opinions, the constant calling for hugs, the 'huns' etc

But you know what after spending 6 months here I'm heading back to those parenting websites where normal people frequent and will put up with the overt 'nicey nicey ness.'

Whats so great about MN? You all go on about it all the time, its freedom of speech, its being able to get seriously involved in debates, etc........well yes there is that but pretty soon the 'parping' becomes duller than the 'big (((((hun)))))'. And what the lack of moderation means we can write 'fuck off'...???

I would love to read a thread without cod being mentioned - fgs, you're like a load of playground kids desperate for attention from queen bee by mentioning her name!

Then there's the food threads where a normal conversation never occurs without 'fruitshoots are crap' or 'lentil weavers' thrown in...........so boring now as is the debate on what is crap and what is not, who gives crap and who does not and usually ends in people saying parp and fuck off. FGS, how anyone can read these threads again and again is beyond me.

MN is a place where you can't say you actually think the SMA emblem looks like a mother cuddling her child without attacks, you can't ever be on the middle ground of something.

On MN the newbies, a term I hate are generally are viewed as a lower species and treated with disdain, people whos opinions are less important or valid.

On MN those who shout loudest, post longest and are the rudest are the most regarded.

On MN, there are a group of mother judging all the other mothers as inferior to them and setting ridiculous standards.

On MN a topic such as weaning invokes 500 posts of pure drivel and arguments

Then there's the new AIBU threads which are just so fucking annoying and pointless.

So I will go back to my fluffy parenting forums where people are pleasant, normal and all are there for genuine reasons.

I will give up my freedom of saying fuck off.

MN is shit

[Porcupine]

i do giev a shit tbh
i want connie to reconsider

[ConnieDescending]

SeeMB, most of the debates I've read have started well and ended personal

[Porcupine]

[apeainapod]

Tutter - my thoughts exactly! Someone map out a tree and then we all know who we should treat with respect!

[fryalot]

as opposed to this one, which started personal and seems to be ending up quite reasonable?

[Porcupine]

oi connie

[Tutter]

seriously connie, is that true

most of the threads

i think you're talking out of your arse



(dya see what i did there)

[Hillls]

Porcupine I dont think she's playing

[Inrockuptible]

If you really hate it and really give a shit then why are you still here reading through what people are saying and commenting back?

[tortoiseSHELL]

Just read the OP - I think a lot of what you say is true in lots of cases, threads do seem to repeat endlessly (especially the endless breast/bottle, foodies, private/state, and the church bashing ones as well (church goers in particular seem to be fair game for bashing). There certainly is some sucking up as well I think.

But there are genuinely wonderful people on here as well - I've made RL friends as well as online ones, and there are people whose opinion and advice I really value. That's why I stay, and I try and avoid 'those' threads for the sake of my blood pressure!

[MARGOsBeenPlayingWithMyNooNoo]

My FIL has ended up doing an OU degree in Economics as he was having so many rows ending up on the subject of economics. Okay, he's not a MN poster, but he'd suit the contraversial threads, and wouldn't take any crap from others. Like SP's dad, I think he's been banned from a forum (not sure about this though)

So out of many rows you may see brewing on here there may be a chance that someone changes their POV due to information on that thread.

[Blandmum]

When that happens walk away and go somewhere else.

I'm great 'friends' with people on MN who I frequenly disagree with on topics.

True personal falling outs are quite rare, and tend to be deleted PDQ. There are too many posts left for this 'bad behaviour' to be the norm.

[Boco]

Cod is definitely underappreciated as peacemaker and coderator - she's a big ol' softy

[ConnieDescending]

But the old jokes about fruit shoots and sausage rolls are boring!!!

If I write cod is a bit fishy do I become part of the gang?

I dont want to be popular or have attention. I just want reasoned debate with reasonable people.

[heifer]

FioFio - of course not....

Just telling the op...

[Hillls]

With an OP like that?

[Blandmum]

and to be fair, threads will get endlessly repleated, when new posters want to discuss stuff that we old times have already 'done'

That is the nature of the discussion board set up isn't it?

[pointydog]

I understand your disappointment and annoyance with mn, connie. It's a bit crapola.

I don't understand your great anger that drove you to starting a whole thread.

You are right, though. If a message board affects you this much it is time to move to another.

[Porcupine]

oh god ok connie pleas es top ranitng nad hop abnotu on other threads
we prmise to be nice

[Boco]

Mildmanneredjanitor i've been worrying. Is everything ok with you and your friend, was she really your friend or someone pretending - with the baby name you didn't like? That thread made me cringe for you so bad

[ConnieDescending]

tutter, read what I wrote - most of the DEBATES not threads

[heifer]

Your post is hardly going to change anyones attitude and posting style...

Bottom Line... is you like it stay, if you don't move along...