MN is a load of shit and all the posters are full of it

[ConnieDescending]

I came here as was fed up of the fluffiness on other parenting websites, the tickers, the over moderation of swear words and forceful opinions, the constant calling for hugs, the 'huns' etc

But you know what after spending 6 months here I'm heading back to those parenting websites where normal people frequent and will put up with the overt 'nicey nicey ness.'

Whats so great about MN? You all go on about it all the time, its freedom of speech, its being able to get seriously involved in debates, etc........well yes there is that but pretty soon the 'parping' becomes duller than the 'big (((((hun)))))'. And what the lack of moderation means we can write 'fuck off'...???

I would love to read a thread without cod being mentioned - fgs, you're like a load of playground kids desperate for attention from queen bee by mentioning her name!

Then there's the food threads where a normal conversation never occurs without 'fruitshoots are crap' or 'lentil weavers' thrown in...........so boring now as is the debate on what is crap and what is not, who gives crap and who does not and usually ends in people saying parp and fuck off. FGS, how anyone can read these threads again and again is beyond me.

MN is a place where you can't say you actually think the SMA emblem looks like a mother cuddling her child without attacks, you can't ever be on the middle ground of something.

On MN the newbies, a term I hate are generally are viewed as a lower species and treated with disdain, people whos opinions are less important or valid.

On MN those who shout loudest, post longest and are the rudest are the most regarded.

On MN, there are a group of mother judging all the other mothers as inferior to them and setting ridiculous standards.

On MN a topic such as weaning invokes 500 posts of pure drivel and arguments

Then there's the new AIBU threads which are just so fucking annoying and pointless.

So I will go back to my fluffy parenting forums where people are pleasant, normal and all are there for genuine reasons.

I will give up my freedom of saying fuck off.

MN is shit

I found myself actually READING this thread for a moment. Got to post 100 - life's too short FGS!

I agree with a lot of what you say and would also add that cod does nothing for me.....

However, nothing but nothing would encourage me to use babyworld or any other ticker crazy, hunny mad parenting forum.

BMC isn't fluffy. It's bady set out IMO. but Fluffy they aint!

This is ace!! has cheered me up no end...really tired but want to find out if peace breaks out!??

Ignore threads that aren't to your humour.
Start threads that will inspire the serious debate you seek.

You won't like all the threads, why would you?

where's david gest? he could make this all better...

Hey! Connie, turn that frown upside down. MN is full of me. I sing, I dance, I collect bats and I eat Morrasian food. But not the yellow bits. We'll do lunch. My man friend, Hock-Heinermannman, will cook beautiful food for you. MN is a big, BIG love in.

I've read this whole thread and some parts I would have agreed with when I first joined. However, I think, to be fair a lot of regular posters devote much of their time to developing relationships with others on here, so I can't really expect to have the same impact as someone who posts prolifically.

I've changed names couple of times because I've posted really personal stuff and not wanted it to be carried over to other light-hearted threads. This allows me to be more honest than I would be in real life with some things, but not feel I'm being judged or pitied for it when I just want a laugh.

I think we all want to be liked and it does hurt when we're jumped on. The best way to avoid it is not to be controversial if you are too sensitive to the response.

I do like Mumsnet and of course some things are downright stupid. But I think we've all been touched by the genuine concern and kindness in recent months and I think we should hold on to that. Oh, and a sense of humour too.

heck jules

well i just did a search, and there is at least one well known mner who has prev used 'saddo' and 'shite'...

[logs on early for tumble drying advice, looks askance at thread, feels slightly scared and logs off to make a cup of tea instead]

Back pedallers Anonymous for you connie!

I?m very confused by this thread. Was it a wind-up and she had no intention of leaving in the first place? I?m feeling conned by Connie because she articulated my thoughts but then back-tracked.

I?m flouncing off too although I don?t know why I feel the need to tell you. I?m fairly new and my posts seem to get ignored. I write what I think are pertinent comments but they seem to get overlooked in favour of MN royalty saying ?parp? and other such banalities.

I know MNers like to think that the only alternatives are the ?fluffy? sites but, believe it or not, I belong to other chat-groups where we are supportive and have intelligent debate without descending into either throwing insults / swearing or giving . There is a middle ground, you know!

So I may continue to lurk but I shan?t bother to post. I shall leave you to your cliques and in-talk, cherry-pick out the bits of information that are may be relevant but not use up my valuable time by actually contributing myself

whatshername - MN is a bit like RL in that sometimes you get ignored, sometimes people find what you say interesting, and sometimes everything moves so fast that no-one has the chance to reply to anyone else!
Cherry-picking is a good way to find posters you have things in common with.
Building up any kind of relationship, real or virtual, takes time and effort.

What are these middle ground sites may I ask?

i've only been around about 6 months but like mumsnet. i like the intelligence and humour of a lot of posters and i've had some good debates.
but, it is very narcisistic sometimes. every few days there seems to be a thread which draws loads of people in about what mumsnet is like, what mners are like, what should be said, etc, etc. very navel-gazing. i do wonder if these are genuine or as whatshername says, whether started as a wind-up.
as for being ignored i try not to care. because you don't get a response doesn't mean that no one is interested in what you've said, and if they're not interested it's still good to express your opinion.

yes agree there is lots of horrific navel gazing

would put me off if new tbh

whatshername - you think it's bad for new posters...just think what it's like posting as a bloke. Talk about tumbleweed

Has nobody entertained the possibility that the OP is a journalist looking to get a reaction on which to base an article?

Watch the supplements this weekend....

sorry, did someone say something, no - ok?

UQD - I'm ignoring you

littlemissbossy

I don't think the OP is a journalist
just someone who's pissed off because someone didn't agree with her or said the wrong thing or she was ignored on a thread - very childish IMO
anyway apparently she's left - ah well never mind