Fed up on the constant deleting threads because OP asks

[GreenSeededGrape]

Or has been a tit and MNHQ oblige.

The flu in pregnancy thread wtaf was that one deleted other than OP got a pasting about her ignorance.

Ffs it's hardly worth interacting on the bloody forum some days

I know. My TIO is so full of holes. It's getting ridiculous now.

Oh wibble, folk don't agree with me.

Oh wobble, this might end up in the Daily Mail

Oh no, this might be identifying

Yes, there are times when I really wonder which part of a thread (which contains no permalice identifying details whatsoever) makes it merit deleting.

But as it's pretty clear that deletion policy has changed considerably in the last year or so, I try to let it all wash over me. I neither agree with it nor like it, but it's MNHQ's business.

(I still like this site more than many others, but do not like it as much as I did).

I used to agree (back in the mists of time) both gosh, threads get so inpleasant now. Poster after poster after poster piling on saying the same unhelpful thing. "An absolute pasting" probably doesn't need to stay forever really.

Splinters in your arse there Stella 😂

But
Unpleasant

Possibly Ursula

But you see if I just said 'I dislike these changes and what I see as the consequences if them on the tone of the site' then that's also a bit of an open goal for 'why don't you leave if you don't like it now'.

And I did mean what I said - I don't like MN as much as I used to, but it's not so bad that I've reached the tipping point where I'm no longer here. That may or may not happen. And it'll make no difference whatsoever to MNHQ because it's their site and their priorities won't be influenced by an erstwhile prolific poster (particularly one who has never been mentioned on a favourite or least favourite MNetter thread. Ms Invisible, me)

If you're stupid enough for it to be THAT identifiable then you should have to grin and bear it imho.

That is the price you pay for being such an utter twit.

But why?

Even if you've been an utter twit, why is it so important that the thread stands, despite the consequences, or even just the emotional effect on the OP. Just because some other people who are nothing to do with them at all are mildly irked at its disappearance. I don't get it.

"why is it so important that the thread stands"

Because that's the norm. (Or at least it was). Your words remain, posts are permanent, unedited. You have to stand by what you said.

If you think you can just get it deleted, th what incentive is there to really think about your post?

If you wanted to belong to a site with a different deletion policy, you could have joined one.

So many responders are down right vile. I don't see why someone should have to put up with 300 people telling her she's an idiot etc, etc woth little regard for the person who originally posted.

But that has always been the nature of the beast

It has changed a lot. And certainly not for the better.

why is it so important that the thread stands

^because other posters invest time in it, by reading, replying and giving advice. And then OP has a change of heart and poof, it never happened.

We're teaching our kids to be careful about identifiable information that they put online...

There's some irony in the fact that so many people seem to be incapable of moderating themselves on a parenting website.

Well, yes. I've been here a while... I know the deletion policy used to be different.
And I remember posting years ago about this, because MN had said previously that they wouldn't delete just because the OP didn't like the way the thread had Fine, and it seemed they were doing that, etc.
But I've changed my view. Some threads make for horribly uncomfortable reading. I can completely understand why MN have changed their deletion policy. And, as ypu say, if people don't like it...

But they've had the advice. If the thread goes, the advice has still been given. Does it have to stand in perpetuity?

Threads don't serve to help just the OP, I have draw countless help and wise advice from threads I didn't start.

If I knew a thread was going to be pulled I would bother posting on it in the first place.

*wouldnt

I agree that it is silly. In most cases, and on many other forums, the individual posts are removed but the responses remain. It's an Internet forum, not a personalised agony aunt service, so even though the OP started the thread, the subsequent exchanges between posters is interesting and can be valuable. It might also be interesting for someone in a similar position, even if they didn't post the OP themselves. It's disrespectful to those who give of their own time and experience to offer advice.

If you want to make a rule that the OP controls the thread, make that a rule. If you claim to be a discussion forum, don't go around wholesale deleting threads.

I don't mind it when someone realises something might be outing.

What annoys me is when people start threads, don't get what they want so wnat it pulling.

When it's identifying yes ok I probably agree but just because it hasn't gone your way etc then no.

I don’t mind so much when the OP has asked to have a thread deleted but you only need someone to claim a thread is racist, sexist, disability etc for the thread to be deleted or edited.

There seems little interest in actually seeing whether a post/thread actually is one of the above, merely that someone thinks it so. HQ normally use ‘bunfight’ as an excuse.

It is a shame that real debate is completely stifled and MN has turned so ‘snowflakey’.

I don't agree that it is necessarily more snowflakey. The nature of threads has changed. They can just become a pile on. The same unhelpful response repeated ad nauseam. Almost invariably there are some useful posts in between, but the overwhelming feeling is a battering of the OP. I would like to see a few more "Peace and Love" style early interventions too.

What’s the legal basis for allowing the daily mail to steal threads from here? I

I do wonder why some people post at times - they don't get the "oh poor you" response and then ask for deletion. I don't always think the OP gets a battering, but more of a "why the hell are you putting up with this" when they clearly have no intention of making any changes.

Nowt such queer as folk.

@Believeitornot The DM is allowed to - it's a public forum. Nothing to stop them.