What does reverse mean?

[Mamabooksbabynumber2]

Just seen it on a thread that eventually got deleted. What does it mean by reverse?

It's when someone tells the story from the point of view of the other person, eg a woman might come on and say "My DIL is lazy, cheeky and feckless" and give examples, when she actually is the DIL and is facing these accusations from her MIL.

thread posted by op as if they were the other person in the scenario

Oh right thank you.

Thanks from me too; I've been on here ages but can never quite get my head around this "reverse" thing ... especially when it's hard to understand what the point would have been in posting as "the other person"

I think the OP would say she's trying to be fair, to see it from the other person's point of view. However what she then says often sounds so ridiculous that it's obviously a reverse.

Is is the USA/Ireland DIL thread. Was it deleted?

Yes it was - causing distress to the OP apparently because everyone pointed out the bleeding obvious wrt the OP's attitude and behaviour.

Someone mentioned elsewhere that actually the angst might have been because the person the thread was about saw it

I'm not so sure, though ... after all the deletion message explained that the OP had been in touch, and it hardly seems likely she'd have cared enough about the person being attacked to contact MNHQ on her behalf

@Puzzledandpissedoff mentioned where?

I agree with you btw - I can't see the OP doing anything to support anyone else.

Have PM'd you, Hanna ... I don't think we're supposed to mention the site on the live threads

My gut said troll on that one but apparently not then.

What I really don't get - and I mean this generally, rather than about any particular instance - is why posters seem able to command deletion when they've started a thread but dislike the turn it's taken. I appreciate that MNHQ will perhaps have information the rest of us lack, but it seems to be happening more and more often

I get the point about support where possible, and of course I understand that risky, identifying stuff has to go, but surely if you ask a contentious question and request opinions you have to, up to a point, accept the answers?

I agree with you.

Yes it can be very difficult to hear things you weren't expecting, specifically when they are deeply unflattering - but when you post you should accept that not everyone will take your position.

I think sometimes people genuinely don't see that their position is "out of kilter" with prevailing opinion and are genuinely distressed by the response they get.

I suppose MNHQ have to balance that upset against an ethos of free speech on the forum and being a place of support.

Problem is not every position is one you can be supportive of - whether it upsets the OP or not.

I suppose MNHQ have to balance that upset against an ethos of free speech on the forum and being a place of support

Absolutely, yes - and it can't always be an easy job

But not even MNHQ are psychic, and I do wonder how easy it is for OPs to manipulate decisions with claims of circumstances which can't be verified ... especially, as I've said, with the number of threads which disappear

I'd guess it couldn't be that difficult to write a heartfelt message to MNHQ full of guff if someone was so inclined.

TBH I can't get that het up about it.

If it's got to that point then the thread isn't serving any purpose anyway. Perhaps better to save the time of other posters who might have posted on it when the OP wasn't willing to take on board what's been said.

Equally if someone is genuinely very distressed maybe the thread has served its purpose and it's been a wake up call. Nothing again to be gained by rubbing salt in the wound at that point.

That said there's a difference imho between posts that are discussing very personal issues and ones where the OP is expressing a more general view that turns out to be unpopular.

I can see why MNHQ might be more cautious with the former as it's far more likely for someone to be genuinely blindsided and hugely upset rather than just "flouncing".