Suggestions?

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I have received some pretty hurtful replies on this site as of late as I'm sure I can't be the only one. I honestly think a message should be displayed on each thread that says something along the lines of:

Please remember that this topic has been posted by a member looking for advice and support, so please bear this in mind when posting a reply. If you are unable to post supportively, we would ask that you move onto a different thread

It might make people think a bit more before they post?

In other words, blow smoke up the OP's arse & tell them they're right, even when they're wrong?

It's all about opinions & on this occasion, I very much disagree with yours.

This is an Internet forum, not 1970's East Germany

There's a wide difference between posting supportively and being a total prick. Most posters fall into the gap between the two. Unfortunately a lot of OP's don't want any advice they just want vindication and, when they don't get it, feel affronted that anyone dared to stand up and oppose them.

It's perfectly supportive to say to someone "you're wrong and I believe x, y and z". It's also a great deal more helpful than brown-nosing and giving them the answer they want without ever giving them the truth.

No, I don't mean what people say. I don't mind if people want to disagree with me/tell me I'm wrong and give their own opinion, but sometimes it's the way it's said

Ffs you are quite the drama queen are you? You've done several threads had honest feedback then repeat the process and wonder why people get annoyed.

No not at all?

Clearly you are. Sounds like you haven't grown up yet and thrive on the drama on here and in your own life

Can you please just stop commenting if you've got nothing nice to say. You really don't help at all

Stop making multiple threads and people won't keep commenting.

Goat stew for lunch anyone?

I will. Because everything that people are putting on here really upsets me. Do you think I enjoy having no one to talk to? No friends to talk to anymore? No family because I get made to feel bad about even sending a text? Always being put down for putting a bit of make up on for work? And then you all put this and make me feel 10x worse just because I want to be able to vent, tell someone how I feel. So don't worry, I wont bother making anymore threads

First reply to any of your threads ..if all the above is true dump the controlling idiot and his mum , go back home and start again with friends and family around you .

I can't.

You've been saying that your parents are all supportive of you now?

Please take the advise of everyone on here. You seem to always make threads about the same situations and nothing ever changes. Do something about it or stop complaining about everything.

If you want to vent with no-one giving you an opinion on what youve posted then start a blog or see a councillor.

Forums are where people give their thoughts and opinions on what other people have posted, these wont always be what you want to hear or said in the way you would choose.

Hi folks,

We're just moving this over to site stuff.

OP, we think it's a lovely idea. We do have our talk guidelines and we do ask people to remember to be civil, supportive and kind to one another.

We'll certainly bear this in mind and really appreciate you flagging this to us.

In the meantime, if any posts concern you then please do report them to us. We're always more than happy to take a look.

It will be very interesting to see OP's suggestion 'message' attached to threads in AIBU.

Meanwhile MNers have been asking for a year for the ridiculous User1234567 system to be sorted out.

Ah, but the OP is the holy grail of "new user"....