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[TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos]

I know Mumsnet is a robust site used by adults but I am finding the Conception titles (which appear in Active, I am not seeking them out) a bit too much. There were mildly amusing before, but they are now, IMO, crude and unnecessary. Can they be reined in a little?

Thank-you.

[LaLaLaaaa]

Yawn.

[LaLaLaaaa]

Hide the threads with titles that offend, or don't read the conception section.

Funny titles help to make what can be a long, painful and emotional time ttc a bit more bearable.

Was it the word 'bum' that offended? It can't be the jsers for once, I think their current title is the tamest so far

Love those girls though - kept me sane through 2 years ttc when I couldn't talk to anyone in RL.

Welcome to the dark side of MN ;)

[LaLaLaaaa]

Ha! Honey I think that was one of my titles!

True story by the way...can't remember which of the jsers it happened to though.

[jellypi3]

That's the one I joined honey

I'm intrigued about which thread the OP is referring to? I'll be most disappointed if it's not one of ours

[LaLaLaaaa]

I can't work out which one it is. They all look quite tame for once

[honeysucklejasmine]

Yes, I couldn't see any to our usual low standard either. Oh wells. Must try harder next time!

[TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos]

Thanks Pretzel. Sorry for the abrupt pause in my contributions just discovered worms in DS1 and phoned 101 about a prostitute outside .

[TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos]

This was the, er, final straw:

"Sod the elections we want erections! We're hoping our miroids will deposit their seed in our lady gardens, and we'll all end up growing giblets. Come and join us on our magical new bedsheets, it's Jus1000"

[LaLaLaaaa]

Worms and prostitutes!? Your Sunday is much more dramatic than mine OP

[Grantaire]

I don't particularly like some of them tbh. I hide them individually. Their need to talk about what is a frightening, exciting, exhilarating, demoralising, frustrating, wonderful, lonely time is far more important than my sensibilities. Hence the 'hide' button.

[SoupDragon]

I think you have a point, OP.mparticularly that one you've just quoted.

Interestingly, it never popped up in my active conversations though. I don't think I've got the topic hidden either.

[Niffertiti]

Ooh, that one was mine! Surely the word erections can't be offensive, it's mumsnet, we've all presumably seen a few.

Sorry if it offended. But surely it's not too hard to just skip over these things and ignore?

[SoupDragon]

I'm not a big fan of swearing in thread titles either, although that's not a popular opinion. In a thread you can say what you like but I personally think titles should be toned down.

[shrug] I just hide ones I don't like as and when they come along though.

[autonomousplum]

What - wait? Really? Is it the word 'erections"? Or "lady gardens"? "Seed"? whispers "giblets"?

I take credit for "magical bedsheets" though, so sincere apologies. Ours all do sing however, beautifully. It's like making love with angels at your hips. You should come over and visit for a bit to see for yourself!

[autonomousplum]

waves at clever niff for putting it all together so nicely!

[NerrSnerr]

They're all a bit 'look at me, we're so daring and are the rebels of mumsnet' in my book. I am no way offended by the word vagina but seeing all the thread titles I would assume the threads are too full of silly in jokes to join in if I needed to.

[honeysucklejasmine]

Ah, it was us! Woo, that's two threads complaining... We're on a roll!

But really... It's quite tame, don't you think?

ponders if my concept of "rude" is wrong

[honeysucklejasmine]

Don't worry Nerr, we have a glossary in the OP. Typically 4 or 5 newbies join each thread. Depending on how quickly we get through it, obviously.

That's a silver lining... Each title is only in use for a short time.

[autonomousplum]

nerr it's always hilarious when AF shows up. Again. Especially if you've been hoping she doesn't for 10 or 18 or 25 cycles now. Fwiw there are few in-jokes that are not explained on the very first page. You can fit right in by the time you've reached the second page of the thread. The posters are a great bunch regardless of their lady gardens and their parents erections. Seriously. you know you want to!

[autonomousplum]

Hahahah! Parents erections? Omg! that was supposed to be partners'. Autocorrect you Freudian devil!

[honeysucklejasmine]

AUT! My parents erections?! Eeeeew!

[Grantaire]

I don't think it's anything to do with 'tame'. I think it's that some people find it annoying, irritating and inappropriate more than anything (like I said, I just hide it and move on). I think it's because we all use active conversations, it's a shared space. There's perhaps a feeling that not everybody wants to read a juvenile/silly/irritating shared joke with what might be triggering words and images. Personally, I take care with my thread titles so that they are clear about what the thread contains and then the language and topic within is beyond this kind of criticism. It's a bit like people posting niche stuff in AIBU and Chat just because they want the traffic. It's done for attention. How you feel about this is dependent upon the individual reading it.

[autonomousplum]

I am soo-oooo sorry! It was my phone! My phone I tell ya!
hangs head in shame

[jellypi3]

I said this in the last post and I'll say it again in this one.

OP and all you other "haters", instead of starting a narky thread about how offensive some pixels on a screen are to you, how about you pop over and try to talk to us or any of the other "in-joke" threads. You might find that we are actually a group of women who find solace in our "in-jokes" because we are suffering with fertility issues and it's something that makes us smile. Of course you may come over and find us offensive, sex crazed maniacs but hey, we are who we are. As someone else has said we tend to get 2 or 3 new folk join us for our sense of humour and community of our threads.

But please do not assume we are attention grabbing, purposely offensive or doing this just to piss of the MN community.

Peace!

[Grantaire]

jellypi, I don't think people are "haters". I don't think it extends beyond an irritation at the thread titles. Please don't think people are casting aspersions on the women using conception.

Threads like yours are what brought me to MN. I had a tough, sad journey to having my first and it was the like-minded folk on those conception threads 9/10 years ago that kept me going. I wish there weren't the need for such long running conception threads but they do a fine job. Even at the time of needing them as much as I once did, I never did like the TMI titles which sometimes cropped up. Different strokes etc. That's why we have the 'hide' option and I encourage people to use it.