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posting sensitive stuff etc in chat because the thread will disappear

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zippitippitoes · 15/10/2006 10:58

....is this backfiring a bit

there seems to be a lot of threads in chat because people want them to be deleted rather than archived but because it is the chat topic then more arguments/misconceptions seem to follow

could there be another topic which doesn't get archived

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zippitippitoes · 15/10/2006 11:29

I've been meaning to ask this for ages..but I think I'm in a minority lol

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lulumama · 15/10/2006 11:35

i didn;t know that happened to be honest - i would not post anything on MN , anywhere.,,,, if i was scared of it coming back and biting me on the bum!!

Marina · 17/10/2006 11:53

Well I've just followed your link to here and I think I agree with you zippi

zippitippitoes · 17/10/2006 11:57

I thought it was another of my lone thoughts!

I have seen people say "posting here because i want it to disappear" and people saying "you shouldn't have posted in chat if you can't take our opinion"

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FreakyFloss · 17/10/2006 12:12

i've done it! mainly because i've needed to post about stuff where my circs are obvious so name changing will just be a little futile (there is always one trying to out you!). in the same way it would be obv to anyone who came across it - but that is not to say i don't need advice still.

winnie · 17/10/2006 12:29

zippi, I too think this would be a good idea.

evilanniedividedin2byalargeaxe · 17/10/2006 12:30

Why do people think they can be more rude/opinionated if it's in chat? Am I missing the point?

JustineMumsnet · 17/10/2006 12:32

It's an interesting suggestion - thanks - we'll have a think about it and get back.

zippitippitoes · 17/10/2006 12:34

thanks justine

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zippitippitoes · 17/10/2006 14:56

just wondered if any one else had a view on an alternative topic to chat which didn't get archived?

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Flamebat · 17/10/2006 15:01

I didn't know people did that anyway, but didn't want you to feel unloved

nailpolish · 17/10/2006 15:02

i dont understand

to me being on MN is like chatting to your mates in RL

if someone recorded all my conversations with my mates i would be a bit annoyed

i dont agree with chat being a more 'loose' board though, i think people should mind their manners wherever they are

SamhainWitch · 17/10/2006 15:02

Brilliant idea zippy. Hadn't seen this when I posted my comment on the other thread.

zippitippitoes · 17/10/2006 15:06

I was interested to see your othe r comment

also interested that people haven't registered that chat is used in this way

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SamhainWitch · 17/10/2006 15:22

I've seen it happening a lot.

People have asked in the past what is the difference between 'Other Subjects' and 'Chat' and the only definable difference seems to be that 'Chat' drops off in a fortnight.

The name makes it sound as if it is simply a place for light hearted banter but many people do use it for far more serious stuff. Not that I'm excusing some of the fights that kick off there, but I think many posters don't expect to come across a serious discussion so are more likely to post comments which are inappropriate, often unintentionally.

Maybe a new topic and a little rebranding would help.

'Non-Archive' for serious/sensitive discussions and a space for rants etc.

'Chat & banter' to make it clearer what the area is about.

zippitippitoes · 17/10/2006 15:31

I've noticed it a lot too..I thought everyone would have noticed but they haven't

I've posted in chat for that reason myself eg I want people to know it's me posting but i am posting about my children and don't really want it hanging around for ever in case they saw it or people they knew did

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Flamebat · 17/10/2006 15:44

How about a "debates and rants" style section - if you are posting in there, you know it is likely to get volotile??

I choose between "chat" and "other subjects" based on how dull my topic is and whether anyone would really WANT to chat about it

Flamebat · 17/10/2006 15:44

Any news StG?

LUCYferKATE · 18/10/2006 10:46

chat could be renamed 'the vipers pit'

TwigTwoolett · 18/10/2006 10:48

I purposefully post most things in chat so they get deleted tbh

SamhainWitch · 18/10/2006 10:49

Sorry flame, missed your post about mum. Have posted updates on 'positive vibes' thread.

zippitippitoes · 18/10/2006 10:50

I actually think a lot of stuff could be deleted, are mnhq from a long line of hoarders?

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HowwwlidayMumsPukefest · 18/10/2006 10:56

I think its a shame that people post so the threads dissapear.

The archives are a great resource for others who need help. I know sometimes people post on delicate subjects but isn't it better to post under an assumed name and leave the thread to help others who may be in a similar situation?

zippitippitoes · 18/10/2006 11:04

I think there is a demand for it though..or people wouldn't use chat in that way

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