Expressing an opinion based on my DH's experiences of running a company

[MillyMollyMama]

Am I not allowed to do this? Three other posters have all been somewhat rude towards me because they do not like me posting about my DH's recruitment experiences with his company. The problem seems to be that what I posted was not directly my experience so is therefore not a valuable contribution and I am someone to be derided for posting in this way. I could have pretended it was my company, but I was truthful. I put forward an opinion based on many years of living with someone running a professional company and wrote a reply based on this. Can anyone tell me if this is against the rules? It is making me think that snide comments about my posts are something of an in joke for some posters and I find their position remarkably narrow in attitude. It is not the first time I have encountered this. I am thinking of leaving. I had hoped all reasoned opinion would be listed to politely.

Do you mean your posts were deleted by MNHQ?

No no, by all means let us know what your dh thinks . . .

People have an issue with DH's opinion because sometimes on MN someone will post something (their own opinion) and then follow it up with "and DH agrees" or post something like "DH thinks...." As if their DH's opinion holds more value than their own (otherwise why back up their own opinion with DH's?). It gets people's backs up because it's a male's opinion being put forward. As if his opinion is more important/right/valuable than ALL the women who have posted.

DiaDuit. I have not posted his opinion nor used the expressions you cite. I posted my own observations on the recruitment issues facing his company. The posts were not deleted by MNHQ but as you can see, the few comments that are already posted on this thread give the flavour. I very strongly have my own opinions, but my comments were based on the company I know, and that belongs to my DH. If only first hand female experiences are wanted, then we have shut our minds to half of what the human race has to offer. I don't want to be part of a forum that does that. I also find it alarming that women snipe at other women in this way. So much for a friendly Mum's forum! I was once told on an education forum that my opinion was worthless because I was only a Mum and not an education professional! They were wrong about that too.

DiaDuit. I have not posted his opinion nor used the expressions you cite

Who said you did?

Milly If only first hand female experiences are wanted, then we have shut our minds to half of what the human race has to offer.

This is absolute clap trap. I'm more than happy to proffer an opinion on Israel/Palestine, Putin, Cameron, or any other issues that I don't have first hand experience of, wot wiv me being a lowly mum n'all. However I will not be offering DH's opinion/approval as having any more weight than mine - which is what I understood your original post to be about.

However if you wish to speak about your understanding of business issues through your own experience and understand of your dh's business then that sounds ok to me.

Do you want to link to the original thread you're upset about?

Could you link the original thread to which you refer? It's very difficult to answer any of your questions unless you do because it's hard, as crystal has said, to judge if you have been unfairly criticised or if you are over sensitive about those who have a different opinion to yours

Why have you posted this in "site stuff" then?

Some MNetters are a bit rude about women posting their DH's opinions. It's a MN thing now.

But then it's hard to post much these days without someone sneering. And then if the sneery tone is commented on, you will be invited to check out netmums...

Meh. Ignore it. This thread is probably the worst response you could make...

So I've posted in the wrong place, made the unforgivable mistake of referring to my husband, talked about universities and philosophy, and generally over-reacted - just like a woman! My God it is so difficult to be perfect. I think I am giving up and going back to my own world as I clearly don't fit into this one!

"Just like a woman" the forum is full of women, it's only you clutching your pearls.

No it isn't.

Hi :)

Having been on the thread in question at the time, I think it was more to do with you declaring another posters personal opinion/experience to be 'absolute tosh'. You could easily have offered your DH's experience in a less combative and dismissive way. All it needed was a 'Really? that's interesting, DH recruits and hasn't found that to be the case'.

The way you expressed it did rather imply that you considered your DH's opinion to be better/more relevant.