Ive been stalked / outed

[shocked2core]

Just need some advice please. I have nc for this so it remains private.

I have just found out my business partner (who is dissolving the business acrimoniously) has found out I am on mumsnet and has forwarded some posts I have made making nasty comments.

Ive no idea how they have found out a) Im on mumsnet and b) what my user name is, however, I am really upset that they have done this.

I mainly post in the miscarriage thread and in the PG after MC thread, so its some pretty personal and private stuff I have shared.

I really don't know what to do, the thought that someone has trawled through all my posts makes me feel sick.

I was going to post in AIBU to be upset, but I know Im not. What I need to know is, what should I do? Can I get my entire user history deleted? I am so upset, the friendships and support I have received from Mumsnet now feels tainted and lost.

Not sure if this is the right place to post?

OP, report this post to bring it to HQ attention quicker and ask to have all your previous posts in that name deleted. It is possible and probably a good thing to do in the circumstances. I am sorry for your miscarriages and that this has happened to you.

Something similar happened to me on here. An exfriend posted in reply to something I put on here and it was very hurtful. I name changed for a while but am over it now.
It's not nice at all but gave me a stark reminder about how anything we share on the Internet is public property.

thanks for the advice, have reported my own post to mumsnet.

What really hurts is that I also spent time giving other posters advice in the MC related threads and that will all need to be deleted now - so its gone forever, both for that individual and anyone lurking looking for advice.

And yes, a post of my own was forwarded to me where I had made passing mention to a work issue, but to have found that one post, there was a hell of a lot of private stuff Id posted that would have had to have been read.

So have him done as a stalker.

Make a complaint that your right to a private life has been breached and that you do not feel safe.

What an utter arsehole. That's scary, I wonder how the hell they found you. Had you forgotten to log off phone/laptop and they saw your username?

Other than get past posts deleted I don't know what else you can do. Keep their emails as I'm sure a dim view would be taken by anyone official if things get nasty.

What a knobber

Hello

We're in touch with the OP about this now - and just wanted to echo what everyone else says; it's obviously a horrible thing to have happen to you.

As others have said, we can delete people's posting histories in certain circumstances, and this one obviously qualifies.

The best way to get in touch about things like this is to report one of your own posts and write us a message in the comments box, or mail us at [email protected]. (We do check Site Stuff regularly, but the other methods will usually get to us a bit more quickly.)

Thanks
MNHQ