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Original poster

someone explain the fb like button to me purleese

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ThatVikRinA22 · 16/12/2011 22:34

so ive seen it

what does it actually do?

what if you dont got on fb
where does it show?
could it potentially "out" me to my FB friends as to who i am on MN?

someone explain it to me please!

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BluddyMoFo · 16/12/2011 22:35

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Akiram · 16/12/2011 22:43

what does it actually do? if a poster clicks on "like" then it links (MN logo and thread title - similar to if you c&p the address) to their FB page.
what if you dont got on fb Then you would never know. A bit like all the people that link MN threads on FB already It wouldn't be linked to you anyway.
where does it show? It shows on the "FB wall" of the person who has clicked "like"
could it potentially "out" me to my FB friends as to who i am on MN? Like anything written on the Internet there is always the chance that could happen. In order for it to happen someone would have to click on "like", then depending on how many of their friends and friends of friends viewed it and clicked on "share/like" then maybe possibly it could reach someone who knows you, but then they would have to wade through alot of your posts assuming your post wasn't unique and identifiable and connect the dots and make the connection that it was you.
Having said all that, I do think its the fact that it is so much easier to link now, you can do without a second thought, that unerves people whereas before it was still doable but less obvious so you actually had to think about it IYSWIM.

Hope that makes sense

Akiram · 16/12/2011 22:44

*Apologies for all the errors

Akiram · 16/12/2011 22:51

Vicar I have read your threads and think it is absolutely understandable that you might be concerned. All I can say is what are the chances of firstly, someone deciding to link your thread to their FB, and secondly, what are the chances that if someone does link it, then that "someones" friend would like it and share it with someone who you know (if we are going by the 4 degree separation thing).
The chances are so small but they are there. But they have always been there, we just didn't have it in our faces before because it was less obvious.
Sorry if this is making you worry.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 16/12/2011 23:13

aye....it is a worry tbh.

i know i post on mn and im quite open, but my MN id is my secret id, ....my FB is a bit too close to home, people know who i am on there and i have colleagues etc on there.

so basically - if i dont ever click like - what are the odds of someone coming across me on here that could link me to my real identity on fb?
thats what i really need to know.

i dont like the link to the real world at all....i have revealed things on here because i am anonymous to all intents and purposes, i dont know anyone else who uses mumsnet.

i realise people could always recognise me but the chances are slim, where as if something is linked to my FB then surely the chances increase?

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Akiram · 16/12/2011 23:43

what are the odds of someone coming across me on here that could link me to my real identity on fb?
What are the odds on someone deciding that your thread was the one they wanted to link onto their FB (assuming most people want to link funny/controversial threads) and then the sort of person who would link your thread, how likely would it be that they knew you, or was FB friends with someone who knew you, or were were FB friends with someone who was FB with someone who knew you. It is unlikely but could happen. But then it could always happen. It just wasn't in our face before.
where as if something is linked to my FB then surely the chances increase? Nothing would be linked to your FB unless you linked it/liked it.

Akiram · 16/12/2011 23:44

Eek that sounded quite blunt and I really didn't mean to, because I understand why you are worried. But really, the chances are small.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 16/12/2011 23:47

no thank you for that...i think i get it

so if i never like or link anything to my Fb then im ok ish...or no more at risk of being outed than i was before.

is that right?

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Akiram · 16/12/2011 23:54

Yes kind of. The only thing that has changed is that its more in your face so people might like link without really thinkin.
But as was just said on another thread " And THERIN lies the issue - cunty people - not cunty websites. This too. The sort of twats that will link sensitive threads to their FB will do it whether there is a neat FB button or not. "
On the plus side scraping the barrel you will be able to see how many people have "liked" your thread (therefore have linked it to their FB) whereas before you would have had no idea.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 16/12/2011 23:57

ok, bottom line

do i need to be more careful about what i say?

will it be easier to out me?

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baubleybobbityhat · 17/12/2011 00:01

BUT one of Vicar's rl facebook friends might be friends with another Mumsnetter (lets call her Bertha).

If Bertha liked the link onto her fb wall and her and Vicar's mutual friend thought "hey, I like the look of that thread on Mumsnet" and clicked on it to read it but in the meantime Vicar had posted something really "identifying" about herself - well then the shit might hit the fan etc.

baubleybobbityhat · 17/12/2011 00:02

Yes, Vicar, it will be easier to "out" you because of the simple fact that a greater number of people will be reading your posts (mnhq hopes) - so, statistically, you are more likely to be recognised.

Akiram · 17/12/2011 00:05

Eeek In my absolute honest opinion (just from what I've seen) the things that you would be scared of getting out are on Relationships where there is no convenient FB button so for someone to link any of your threads, well they could have done it before anyway in a c&p way (but seriusly who is going to do that?) so personally I would say carry on as before. BUT I'm not you and I'm not where you are. I really don't think its going to make it easier to out anyone, although others disagree.
I worry more that if there is a controversial thread it is easier for nutters extremists less than reasonable people to link and invite their friends to join in (thinking Feminism, abortion though don't think the buttons will be there either) but then that could have happened anyway.
Fuck, I don't feel as though I am helping ease your worries.
Sorry

Akiram · 17/12/2011 00:08

Baubley I get what you are saying. But really what are the chances of someone that Vicar knows (or mutual friend) deciding that her heartfelt thread is appropriate to link. Yes I know it could happen but really?
I don't know. I don't think it is as bad as some make out but I don't think it's as innocent as others make out.
MNHQ should have kept the FB thingy up there ^^ and whilst people may have linked threads, no-one would have been the wiser.
I don't know.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 17/12/2011 00:10

ahhhh

so there are still sacred places then....

where are they?

the very nature of my job is nosiness. im thinking that colleagues could fairly easily trace me back to mn if anything was ever linked from here to my fb pages....

im seriously considering scrapping Fb to be honest.

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baubleybobbityhat · 17/12/2011 00:13

I'm not saying the chances are great.

She asked if there is greater chance of her being "outed".

I said yes.

You can't argue with that.

Akiram · 17/12/2011 00:13

Think if you have a look in Site stuff on the main discussion. Its relationships, adoption, infertility, there are quite a few more that won't have the button and a fair few more that MNHQ are going to make a decision on. Whats the betting only Chat ends up keeping the button and that gets deleted after 90days anyway

Akiram · 17/12/2011 00:15

No definitely not Baubley I won't argue with that. I just don't think the chances are as great as others are making out. But as I said earlier that is just my opinion.

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