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MNHQ please can we have an "elderly parents" section?

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ssd · 27/08/2011 09:17

this subject is so relevant to many of us yet there is nowhere to discuss the feelings of loss/guilt/anger/worry many of us have, not to mention having a discreet laugh and chat when it all gets too much

I think this would be a really useful and sympathetic section for those of us struggling with elderly mums or dads

thanks

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SophieRMumsnet · 27/08/2011 11:20

Great idea. We do have a 'Carers' section but perhaps this is not quite that because although you are dealing with your parents you are not necessarily the 'carers'.

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OliviaMumsnet · 29/08/2011 18:31

I think it is a bit of a Monday morning jobby really (well Tuesday as it's bank holiday today)
But we need a good name - elderly parents may make people think it's about those choosing to have babies later in life iykwim
Didn't know that the sandwich generation led to cheese and pickle jokes
If we were to get the topic, what would be a good name for it?
thanks

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HelenMumsnet · 02/09/2011 14:10

@ssd

how about Dodderry Old Buggers? Grin

so come on MNHQ, I'm sure you have nothing else to do but give us this!!

whats the verdict?

Ha at Doddery Old Buggers - my mum would love that!

We've been asked about this before, I think, and at the time, it was thought that this kind of discussion would fit well in Carers.

We do take your points here, though - so we'll have another think...

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HelenMumsnet · 02/09/2011 19:19

@FruStefanLindman

HelenMNHQ. This thread started a week ago.

Posters on this thread (including me) said that the 'Carers' topic didn't seem to be quite right the right place for those of us who are struggling with specific issues with their elderly parents/relatives.

I've been 'here' over a year now, and have seen some heart-rending threads from many MNers who have elderly parents/relatives/IL's - most of those threads being in Chat or AIBU.

A separate topic would be extremely helpful. Sadly I lost my Mum to dementia last year, after a number of years of...well...extremely difficult and heart-breaking times. I'm still struggling with many things about the last few years of her life, even though she is no longer with me.

I think ssd's request is quite valid - especially when you read some of the other posts on this thread.

Carers isn't quite the right place. Neither is Bereavement. We are stuck between the two.

No, we take your point, Fru. That's what I meant in my earlier post. Apols if that wasn't very clear.

Sorry about your mum Sad

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HelenMumsnet · 03/09/2011 11:18

@ssd

agree Fru, the title needs to let people know what its about, its not to complain about old folks (OAP's too vague.....), its for those of us with elderly parents to chat and discuss things and unload the burden somewhere...............

something tells me no one at MNHQ HAS AN OLD MUM AND DAD IN THEIR 80'S (OOPS), that they solely look after,I don't mean a fit and active gran, I mean someone housebound or getting there, once you have you realise the need for a safe place to discuss things and vent your feelings

You couldn't be more wrong, ssd

And thanks all for your patience with this - we know you've been waiting a while while we dither.

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HelenMumsnet · 05/09/2011 23:00

Hello. And many apols for keeping you waiting so long.

But yes to this new topic. We'll get it set up as soon as we can.

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HelenMumsnet · 06/09/2011 12:00

Hello. And here you go

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