MNHQ removing posts.

[Trop]

Dear MNHQ

Would it be possible, if a poster asked you to, to remove all their posts?

I have always been fairly open about my life etc on MN not because it didn't occur to me that I could be traceable but because I honestly didn't think anyone would bother.

Unfortunately a bit of crossover seems to be happening and its not very nice.

Is it possible for you to do and would you be willing to do it if asked without a person having to go into details?

Yes, Pixie is right, you need to email MNHQ. There have been several cases of entire posting histories being deleted.

They will require some details IME and prefer not to remove whole posting histories, but they will if it really is necessary.

yes email [email protected] and explain briefly your predicament

I am sorry that there has been a collision between RL and MN for you

I would urge any MNer to do a search on their posts in the archives - it's easy to get lulled into the sense of 'community' on here and forget that folks out there may have malign intent - and think about getting removed any posts that mention things like your date of birth/surname/forename/hometown/childrens names/school name/employer/email address.

It's not hard to trawl posts and harvest info, and one ought to be on guard and alert to the idea that info garnered over many months or years can be used for nefarious purposes

[gloomy]

date of birth/surname/forename/hometown/childrens names/school name/employer/email address.

I have never posted any of these, I am careful in that respect but I do post about my life, activities and circumstances so that makes me recognisable to those who know about me.

There is not a definite identification but there seems to be referencing.

I've had the same name for about 2 years so perhaps just a complete change would be a good idea.

Thanks for your replies btw, will have a think and perhaps email or change.

Trop.
We don't like doing mass deletions because it tends to make a nonsense of the boards. BUT there are a few things we can do to help with this kind of thing - and we know it's not nice when RL/MN meet in this kind of way.
As the others have all said (and thanks for doing my job this pm btw ) drop us a line and we can talk you through it.
Thanks
M Towers

I sent in an email this pm Olivia. Obv don't expect a reponse immediately as its not really urgent and it is Sunday eve!

I'm not nagging promise - I just need to bemoan the situation.

I note there is a bit of an invasion from another forum which just makes me feel even more vulnerable, I don't know why it should as I already knew all Mumsnet was available via google. Like I said, I have been careful not to post any searchable info.

But knowing it could happen and actually having it happen are two totally different sensations for me.

No-one would waste their time searching out a person for no reason. If I came across a poster and I was fairly sure I knew them I would avoid their posts and respect their privacy. I certainly wouldn't try to stalk them and drop hints about their posts to them.

Its just mean spirited and miserable.
Its so ridiculous, I've always thought that online stuff has no impact on my life once I close the laptop but now I'm thinking about it constantly and stressing.

I should just log off and forget about it but Mumsnet is where I go to leave behind the stresses of rl.
Its all shifted now.
I can't believe I'm sitting here crying about my virtual world. Totally arseabouttit ffs.

awww.

hope you are ok, you sound miserable

I think all your posts should be deleted tbh, if it's making you feel this shit

sounds crummy, i hope it all gets sorted out for you.

Sounds horrible - sorry this is happening

Would you consider namechanging? Might help going forward. And you could pick out the posts that make you identifiable and get MN to delete for you

Thank you for your kindness, I feel a bit bad now though.
Aitch and AF - you have both torn strips off me in the past. I feel disingenuous because you are being kind to me without knowing.

It will feel different tomorrow in the cold light of day, I just need to get a grip. Thats all it is.

Look, I'm drying up already.

now look

the d word is not to be used lightly on MN, esp in the run-up to Xmas

chin up and I hope you can get this sorted

[manly punch to arm]

There is (at least one, though maybe more) another mner who had the posting name changed on all her old posts, after people had linked her rl/online persona.

Hope all is well.

Oh gosh. Sorry about inappropriate use of 'd word'. Wasn't thinking straight.

as one does.

I heart mumsnet.

don't be silly, we all tear and have been torn, it's teh stuff of MN life, it doesn't mean anything. this is a bit different, isn't it? you're really unhappy and it's all fixable. i'm sure MNHQ can help you, hope you feel better soon.

Trop, replied to you last night - if you haven't received it, please drop me a line. firstname at mumsnet dot com
Thanks

It was me (in a diff name) that had my posting name changed for every post. I lost my MN history that day and it was sad but needed to be done. MNHQ gave me a few options but we decided that changing my name meant that my posts were still "there".

I deregged anyway a while after but came back.

I have replied to your email Olivia, have been at work all day hence the delay in responding.

Thank you