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No idea what to wear and dreading hot weather

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Emonade · 25/04/2025 19:14

I had a baby a year ago, I have gone from a size ten to a twelve, up until a year before having him I had various eating disorders and always fought against my bodies natural shape to stay skinny, the clothes I wore were very much suited to a skinny frame, short skirts and dresses, high necks etc. One of the things that triggered my desire to be skinny was having enormous boobs as a teenager and now they are back! (Still breastfeeding) I feel like I have no idea what I can wear anymore or what my style is. I was always sort of vaguely alternative/vintage. And have managed over winter by hiding in mum jeans and large cardigans. I have some mum jean style shorts but no idea what to wear top wise and also haven’t worn a dress or skirt since having my baby. I just don’t feel feminine not being skinny which is so silly because I am more typically now with my big hips and boobs but years of bad body image is hard to get over. To make it worse, Im getting married in September and the idea of wearing a wedding dress is just like I can’t imagine it happening, it’s so bad ive considered cancelling, any suggestions, advice would be much appreciated, I’m 37 too if that helps! Sorry for the long ramble,

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Calliopespa · 25/04/2025 19:19

First of all op, well done for continuing the bf. I can imagine with you being body conscious it would be easy to stop and try to diet so it’s great you’ve taken a decision for your baby and are sticking to it even when it must be hard for you at some level.

Re the wedding, it’s supposed to be a day you enjoy. If you are really dreading it, change the style, size, date - whatever you need to feel comfortable. You don’t HAVE to do anything. It’s in your control.

Calliopespa · 25/04/2025 19:20

oh and re tops, how about loose linen shirts or smock style - even loosely tucked in?

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