Just a rant

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so me and my friend booked to go look at wedding dresses
my partner was then called into work so I had no childcare. We were reluctant to cancel the appointment as we had had to pay therefore we called the boutique. They said we were fine to bring my baby (3 weeks old) however to bring him in a car seat and not a pram as there were stairs and it was upstairs. We went to the appointment and then booked another appointment to show the other bridesmaids the dress/s.
My friend has then received a text reminder of the appointment. In the text it specifically mentions no babies or children due to the delicate fabric etc. I feel this was added in because I took my baby to the last appointment and wasn’t a generic text. I’m now pissed off as we had previously asked and not just turned up with him! Am I being a hormonal mess and unreasonable for been annoyed 🤣

I think they were very reasonable allowing you to bring your baby to the first appointment.
I think the text reminder for the second appointment was fine because no children and babies is probably the general rule they have and because they had relaxed it for the first appointment they didn't want to risk the assumption it was OK.for your group to bring children.
I think they worded it diplomatically.

You've got to remember that whilst you weren't cheeky with them and quite rightly asked about your baby for the first appointment they will be dealing with all sorts of people , some of who will do what they want regardless.

Your baby is 3 weeks old 😂 3 years old and running around with sticky fingers I could understand the text but unless a 3 week old can projectile vomit 4m onto a dress then I think it’s ridiculous. Unless you were the one trying on dresses and holding the baby at the same time? As then obviously there’s a risk of being sicked up on and I can understand it.

Is there a chance your friend made up the text as she wanted you there without your baby so you were more “present”? Or maybe she thinks it would be nice for you to relax and have a break.

I would just remind yourself that the lady doesn't know you, so it's nothing personal.

They bent the rules last time, and probably don't want to bend them again, so they tried to remind your friend in the politest way possible. 😊

I'd say it is a generic text. Calm down.. 😀

Perhaps the first time your friend spoke to someone who was inexperienced and wasn’t aware of no baby rule.
Maybe they thought they would relax the rule on this occasion in case they potentially missed out on business.
Maybe since your appointment there has been an incident with another baby being sick or having a poonami and they realise the rule is needed?
Possibly they hardly ever get babies in and realised that it’s not the best idea. A 3 week old is unlikely to cause any issues as long as it’s kept away from the dresses, but an older baby might be more problematic- less likely to sleep through, be happy to sit in car seat etc…and it’s easier to have a blanket rule.
Also they might allow a baby in a realise too late that mum breastfeeds and an awkward conversation could take place about protecting the dresses that could be viewed as them being anti breastfeeding. I know you aren’t the bride but chances are you’ll be back in another time for bridesmaids dresses so they want it clear now.

whatever the reason, and even if it’s not a generic text, I wouldn’t take it personally at all. It’s a very sensible rule.

If your child was a toddler or older then yep I get it as they may touch the dresses, but a baby in a car seat is no harm at all. Tbh I think it was good of you to ask before the first appointment, most wouldn’t. If it was me, I’d be turning up with the baby in the car seat again and if anything is said then I’d be buying elsewhere

I think it's stupid. It's a 3 week old in a seat... no sticky fingers...

I would guess they’re just trying to avoid a situation where you turn up to the next appointment with 2 more friends and their 4 toddlers and then say “but you said it was fine to bring children last time”.

I wouldn’t take it personally, they will have come across all sorts before and they can’t assume that people will be reasonable and not take the piss. I’m sure they aren’t suggesting that you did something wrong the first time round.