How to placate 2yr old son upset at the arrival of baby sister?

[johnnybuoy]

Our 2yr (and 1 month) old son was joined by a new baby sister a week ago and he has been more upset than I expected.
I guess the fact we were both away in hospital for most of 3 days (due to c-section) didn't help. He was looked after by Granny and did visit each day after nursery.
He's not antagonistic towards the new arrival, more grumpy due to not being the centre of the universe any more. He seems quite grumpy and tearful and isn't sleeping as well as normal.
Apart from getting him involved with the new baby , changing etc and playing with him as much as possible are there any other tips which you've found helpful in this situation?

No help I'm afraid but will watch with interest as a similar situation is imminent overhere as well!

One of my firends packed her daughter a little bag with a book she really liked, a toy and some snacks. Every time she fed her baby she gave her daughter the bag which made her really happy and she didn't then feel left out when the baby was being fed.

i have a nearly 2 year old & a 5 month old & when ds2 came along i just tried to carry on his routine (as much as you can with a newborn) still went to the same classes/playgroup as usual. when i was feeding ds2 i would read with ds1 or make sure i was talking about what he was doing if he was building something or colouring. he now loves to put his teddy or doll to his nipple just like 'mummy' while i'm feeding ds2. just keep trying to give him as much attention as you can so he is'ne put out & resents his little sister. also found if i say to him bailey (ds2) is looking at you & says thats a great rocket you have built, he feels pround that his brother he watching him & now if he does something he'll say bailey look. hope this helps. sorry its a bit long!

involvement with the new arrival is good, and important,

but, don't make everything about her.

Do stuff with him while she is asleep, and stress that this is your special time with your special boy.
make a big deal over him and how you're doing things that she can't do yet.
show him that you still ahve time for HIM without baby being involved and that you still lvoe him lots.
he needs tons of attention now as well as the new baby

also i started story time which is our special time together in the evening when the lo is in bed. he loves it & gets really excited by it.

I go for the special time, too. ELC is brilliant for making kits if you're feeling unimaginative (like me).

Also, it is early days and you're probably not up to running around yet, but soon you'll probably find that when you get out of the house it's to entertain your ds and your LO just has to fit in.

I also found that because my dd (also my 2nd) slept a lot (those were the days), visitors usually ended up spending more time with my ds, whose language came on leaps & bounds as a result.