Wow, 16k is the highest figure I've read yet, for the threshold when diesel is better than petrol. More like 7k or 9k in other sources.
Those figures probably don't take into account the increased maintenance - if your DPF goes that going to be a few hundred quid to fix; DMF will probably be £600-£1000 depending on the car. That buys a lot of petrol.
It ultimately depends on the type of journey - if you do a journey every day, 7k miles per year is less than 2 miles on average - the engine wouldn't even be warm. If it's two journeys a month each of 290ish miles, that's a completely different matter - it's all down to how the car is being used.
Commuting 15 miles a working day is about 5000 miles a year, plus another couple of thousand for domestic purposes to take you up to 7000 - this is not diesel territory.
Diesels take longer to get up to temperature and won't be fully fuel efficient until they are; petrols warm up quicker and get their maximum fuel efficiency (for a given situation) sooner, even if that efficiency is lower on average than a diesel. By the time you've worked out pence per mile (petrol also being cheaper than diesel) on short journeys, there's probably nothing in it.
I understand that even with petrol cars it knackers them faster to use for short journeys, so that's something to avoid as much as possible either way.
It's probably not great, but nowhere near to the extent of a diesel - the flywheel torque of a diesel reaches its peak at about 1750-2000 (and may continue on a wide band); a petrol engine may not reach its peak torque until 3000-4500, or even higher. Plus the diesel peak could be 4 or 5 times that of the petrol. Given that in everyday driving people are using maybe 1500-2500 in a diesel, or 2000-4000 in a petrol, the diesel spends a huge amount of time bashing the DMF just as hard as it can - the petrol on the other hand is bashing it maybe a tenth as hard (because it's not near peak torque, and peak torque is much lower anyway).
Our other impression is that diesels are more reliable but they cost more to fix when they do go wrong.
15 or 20 years ago, sure, but modern diesels have tried to keep apace of demand for big performance with low fuel consumption, their popularity has been driven by tax bias. Now we have high power diesels that are complicated and fragile. BMW's problems with swirl flaps could destroy the engine if they broke off and were ingested (which happened more often that would have been liked).