should i worry what my parents think?

[samandchloe]

me and my hubby have decided to try for another baby possibly i could be pregnant now but were worried about what my parents might think and say about it as from previous pregnancies i don't want to push them away but surely it's upto us how many kids we have not them.just want some advice on how to approach the situation really and should we just keep it a secret?

you worry that your parents will have a negative reaction to their having another grandchild? i find that very confusing. whether you have another child or not, is your and your dh's business, unless one of your parents is going to be the main carer because you both go to work and use them for childcare.

i would keep it quiet until well into the second trimester, then tell them. they can like it or lump it then

My personal opinion is that it is completely irrelevant what your parents think. Do they tend to be interfering/overinvolved in every aspect of your lives? If so then this is an issue of boundaries that needs dealing with.

How does your dh feel about them? More importantly what do you and your dh feel about having another baby/being pregnant?

Even if your parents are the main child carers, then they should not dictate how many dcs you have. Fair enough if they were to say that they couldn't childmind/babysit future children if that was the case, but not to try and influence how many you have.