Me (28F) and my boyfriend (31M) have been dating since January this year. We have a good relationship and we do have sex fairly frequently but he rarely makes me finish.
The sex basically consists of him initiating, trying to insert himself slowly even though im not fully wet yet, and he just continues to do this until I am wet. The sex lasts about 2 minutes of penetration and then he finishes.
I've brought it up to him before that I don't expect to cum every time but once in a while would be nice. He says that im the first woman he's been with that has never cum from penetration. This comment made me feel like im the problem. He said we might be sexually incompatible if he cant make me cum. Ive tried to tell him I cant finish from actual penetration and that I need external stimulation and I told him to use his hand but he says its too difficult to do when he's on top. I can tell he does try to make me cum during penetration my pressing my lower pelvis and moving my hips back and forth when im on top, but I still cant cum from this. Ive told him this multiple times and he thinks its because we are sexually incompatible. Even though every other man has made me cum by external stimulation using their hand. It's really deflating because its made me feel like I have a problem because I cant cum from penetration and all the other women he has been with have been able to.
He suggested going down on me but I really feel self concious about that and would much rather he'd just use his hand but he says its too difficult. Does anyone have any tips or advice? Or even reassurance that I'm not completely abnormal.