Partner insecure about D size

[Itsthelittlethingz]

l've got a relatively new partner, anytime we are intimate he is SO insecure and starts panicking how 'small' it is.
I've never met a man so openly insecure...
To top it off he finishes quickly, and then is extremely down about it. It changes the whole mood.
I've tried to reassure him it's all okay.

I just don't know if it's normal or not... it's quite awkward if I'm honest.

Without sounding big headed he is punching slightly not that I’m bothered but maybe he feels this way.

Are guys like this insecure about size?

Any advice thanks guys x

@Itsthelittlethingz Men are trained, from childhood, to believe that having a small penis makes you less of a man. It sounds like he's internalised this. What you do about it depends on how you feel about him.

You seem to believe you're out of his league. Why are you with him? Be honest with yourself.

I think you need to be honest with yourself. It's going to eventually become annoying. Not the size of his cock but the insecurity.

I can relate. I realised early on that you get what you get and you must deal with it. I realised that confidence was attractive and though hard at first just began to power through. I leant to breathe through my ears and become and eager beaver and that seemed to put me in a good standing .

I also got on the toy train early and that again did me no harm. There are now lots of sites with information and techniques that he can become skilled and an even a master at to give you a great time.

If you’re a big D girl, then this will always be a challenge and you need to set him free (I have been unceremoniously dumped because of it) but if you’re not and he can find his mojo then your in for a pleasurable ride. Rather than a guy who thinks his giggle stick is the cure for everything.

Me I married someone way out of my league and don’t ever worry that she’s going anywhere soon as I makes you try harder in every aspect so why would she.

As a guy with a small D I can relate to how he feels but I learned to just accept it and concentrate on pleasuring partners in other ways and to be a very unselfish lover.

I can honestly say I have never had any complaints and I know I have been with women who have had much bigger and they have wanted to stay with me so I must have been doing something right. Only you will know if the way he is being will be a deal breaker though.

Thanks for your reply. I think it’s good that you own it and get on with it I think us girls are attracted to confidence. I just find it hard to comprehend how insecure he is about it and so down that he finishes quickly too. I’ve tried to reassure him but it really affects him he says he’s angry at himself.

I have no choice but to own it, it can't be changed can it. I do wish it was bigger though but who is 100% happy with their body?

I can imagine it is more frustrating trying to reassure him all the time

I think this boils down to a few things - as @LochSunart said, as young men you might be teased about being small, especially in environments like a changing room. As you get older men love to use the size of a D as an insult so it is ingrained in men that a small D isn’t cool.

You then get the age old tale of does size matter? For every woman that says no, there is one that says yes, so it’s a constant tug of war.

I would imagine most men who are insecure about their size, probably aren’t that much smaller than average. Porn probably plays a part as well as friends over exaggerating their size which just compounds the whole situation. His PE is almost certainly down to a lack of confidence

what do YOU think of his size? Does it bother you? What have you said to reassure him? I think a lot of people forget that men need just as must reassurance as women.

I am in a rare situation where I have been at both ends of the spectrum. I was well above average before my implant and afterwards, having lost around 3’ I was also insecure. Subsequent partners have reassured me and now, I am very happy with my very average size D.

As others have said, it is unlikely the size or the bad sex that will ultimately break the relationship, but instead the constant whining and insecurity. That insecurity will in time, effect you and how he treats you, jealousy and over bearing control likely the two most likely.