How do others feel about loose skin after major weight loss? pic including tmi warning

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So ive posted this in the sex topic as its a picture of me in my underwear ( not any different from someone wearing a bikini i may add) and its also because I dont feel like my body is good enough for someone to want to have sex with.

I've lost 10 stone over the past 3 yrs and I feel great apart from my loose skin which I cannot afford to get removed.

I want honestly only about how I look and how bad it is. Im 34.

Male here, in exactly the same situation, 11 stone lost and loose skin. It would be very easy to say it doesn't matter and what's important is the weight loss and the health benefits that brings but I know how you feel as I am self conscious of my loose skin too.
Honestly thought it doesn't look bad at all and it absolutely wouldn't put me off.

That's quite interesting to hear a male point of view especially one who has also lost alot of weight. Do you think it's something that you can accept in time?

I think so yes but I am a bit older than you and I still have some weight to lose. I will always feel self conscious about it though, we're going to Majorca in October and taking my top off to go swimming etc will be a big thing

Really well done OP on losing 10 stone! That's amazing.

I think you look lovely. I had a thread going about vibration plates and one poster said she bought one specifically to tighten up/tone loose skin after she lost lots of weight and doesn't have loose skin now. That might be worth looking into if it bothers you but I honestly think after losing 10 stone you look great!

@Baggiesfan well done you on losing the weight!

well done on losing the weight .you've done so well it's very tough .don't be so hard on yourself x

Well done on losing so much weight! You too @Baggiesfan.

You do look really good. I imagine it takes a while for your brain to catch up and feel at home in your new body. And I'm sure the skin issue will gradually improve, and maybe there are other things you can do to help.

If anyone is lucky enough to end up in bed with you, they're honestly going to just be thrilled to be there with you.

Great job on the weight loss.

And you're wise to post on the sex board. I remember a recent thread where someone posted a pic of their belly on a bikini and the thread stretched to 20 pages mostly telling the OP she was a man looking for sexual kicks.

Your body is great. Your body is you. You are great.

I understand why you have felt the need to post, as you don't see loose skin models in magazines. It plays with your brain. When you're dating someone before sex, they'll be getting to know you. When you get to the point of taking your clothes off, they'll be wanting you and all you are. Your skin will be far from their mind.

It's always scary having sex with someone the first few times. It's normal to think "I'm too...". My issue is my flabby belly. Still can be. I have no issue wth my partner seeing me naked on a bed or in the shower, but I find it hard being naked sat down, as my belly looks bigger.

Most of us have got body hang ups about something. Dress to cover the parts you feel less confident about, as it'll give you the confidence you need to assure you that you look great.

I hope you have a nice hoilday. In a way I think I would feel more confident on a beach overseas then in my local swimming pool. Your doing great I know how hard it is to lose weight.

just had a look. I dont feel confident enough yet to join a gym ( it's my next goal) so have been working out at home so could be something I add to my diy home gym.

I know i shouldn't but I follow some people on Facebook who have also lost weight and the comments they get about the loose skin are horrible. I do think surgery is the only way but unfortunately I cannot afford it.

People are twats at times and it's easy for idiots to write nasty things online that they'd never dare say to your face.

You just have to see the nasty shit that's written about beautiful actresses or pop stars. Sometimes it's easy to wonder what hope us mere mortals have 😁

I'd like to see what some of those posters on Facebook look like in their underwear (actually I really wouldn't!) I bet they don't look as good as you.

What you and @Baggiesfan have done is incredible and it's no mean feat.

Have you looked into micro needling? I saw videos on Youtube of a lady who had a baby and she had lots of skin on her belly which she micro needled once a month and the results are amazing. I've linked her video she's called Bubzbeauty. It's so cheap to do as well

To me that looks like it could pretty much just be from pregnancy OP (if you hadn't told us differently). You've done really well, I was expecting a lot more loose skin tbh.

There are way too many utter shits shooting their mouths off from the safety of their phones. Ignore them, they're losers who are never going to get the chance to get naked with you!

First of all congratulations on such a huge weight loss; you must be so proud of what you have achieved. What a great body shape you now have, but I understand why the inevitable loose skin from shedding this amount of weight bothers you.

Our bodies reflect the story of our lives: mine has the scars and bumps of a road accident that put me in hospital for several weeks and some loose skin from significant weight loss (but not as much as yours). OK, I’m an older man and perhaps it’s easier for me to think this way, but what you are now celebrates the wonderful journey you have been on, both the great shape you are now in and the aspects that you are less happy with.

As it must have been such a big part of your life recently, I’m sure that your achievement will have come up long before you reach the bedroom. If you mention that you are a little shy about some loose skin I’m sure that any man who has got to know and respect you will be able to celebrate with you when the sexual part of the relationship begins.

“I don't feel like my body is good enough for someone to want to have sex with” is perhaps oversimplifying things. One would like to think, when it comes to sex, that most men would be making love to a person, not just having sex with a body.

I'm a guy and pretty new here, so I'm sorry if it's not appropriate for me to comment - but I think you look great. Well done on losing so much weight, that's a huge achievement! Any change can take some time to get used to so I'd advise giving yourself some time and grace. I bet if you saw someone else in the same situation you'd just be happy for them without judging them.

I'm proud of myself yes and do understand what your saying but my weight gain was due to a quite a horrible time in my life. It does feel like a scar but one id rather forget.

Thanks. It is true that I wouldn't judge someone but apologies if this offends but I do think men expect more and especially as im now 34. I very much feel like I have nothing going for me especially as I'm not looking to date but more casual and open

male here as well. i lost 4 stone, so not as heroic as yours, but still a big hill. I did through a change in lifestyle, eating less and going to the gym. but post weight loss, running became my passion, 8 years on i have run 2 marathons (including London), numerous half marathons and 10kms.

Find your passion, what you have done is fantastic and you look great.

That's still a amazing weight loss. I have signed up for a 10k night walk coming up soon. I would love to join a gym and have many close by but I dont feel confident enough. Did you feel confident enough the first time? if not how did you overcome it? I workout at home but the gym has better equipment etc

Never had an issue of confidence in the gym. My weight loss journey started in the gym. From the gym, I could see park run on Saturday mornings, so that got me into running. I had to run 2 or 3 5km alone before I was willing to run parkrun. Then joined a running club, soon.

you really look great, just get in the gym and enjoy your new you.

I have always swum for exercise, especially since my traffic accident limits my mobility even decades a later. I tried running after losing weight, but had to stop after medical advice, even though I’d run a half marathon. I’m probably more self conscious of my body in the pool than I was before losing seven stone, as I’m aware of my saggy tummy, but when you look around the pool there are all sorts of body shapes, so sod it! (I just make sure that I pull my trunks up over my belly when I step out of the pool.😀)

I lost over 7 stone when my DH died. Now a size 8-10, but not fit enough to go to a gym etc. Not good, but I’m probably older than you, so, i just wear what hides the bad bits. 🤷‍♀️