Things in the bedroom went slightly strangely last weekend and I’m still thinking about it.
I’m a man, and I only see my partner (woman) in the weekends.
On Friday night we had sex, PIV only and I came but she didn’t, which is normal for her. We had it again on Saturday morning, she came from my fingering her, then we had PIV and I came.
On Saturday night she said she didn’t want sex because she was tired and under the weather, so we didn’t do anything other than cuddle.
Then in the middle of the night when I was asleep she got me horny by playing with me, then when I was half awake rode me but she was unable to cum. So we then had PIV in missionary, and although I came she didn’t. I enjoyed the sex, but afterwards have been thinking about the consent side of it. Would I have had sex with her while she was asleep? I doubt it.
In the morning she came by my fingering her, and we then had PIV and I came.
Another thing is that on Friday night we’d been talking about previous sex lives, and I’d told her about my earlier partner who had told me she’d been repelled by her husband wanking next to her in bed during the night although she would have been happy to relieve him by having sex.
My partner said to me that an option on Saturday night would have been for her to have wanked herself next to me, but that if I’d woken up and wanted to help her out by fingering or have had PIV she would have said no. I’m confused about that too.