Is enjoying having your bum slapped during sex a kink or just a common part of sex?

[SexQueryx]

I'm late 40s and I have recently started being open to trying new things in the bedroom with my DH. Until recently I had only ever had sex with him being on top. It was getting a bit humdrum. We have been trying DTD with him behind me - or doggy as it's more commonly known, though I must say I find the word a bit daft when used to describe sex between humans. I have been asking him to slap my bum while we are having sex in that position, and I have found it to be a surprisingly big turn-on. It certainly seems to turn him on as well. I am curious if this would be classed as kinky by most or is it just a normal sexual thing.

Perfectly normal! Provided you're happy with it, and he reciprocates on what you enjoy I'd say it's more at the fun end of sex rather than the fetish end.

I would say does it matter but it must if you’re asking. I’d say it’s fairly common to add a bit of extra sensory stimulation light spanking or biting . Think if you were using an implement then that’s moving over towards the kink side

Would just add I you think it’s kinky and that enhances your experience then roll with it

I think a playful slap on the bum is a pretty normal part of sex.

whereas a hard spanking with a flogger ...

Perfectly normal, love it especially if I’m near the edge lol

lt does increase the blood flow to that area of your body. But as always you need consent and boundaries.

Perfectly normal

Bum slap during sex = playful
Putting you over his knee and spanking you = kinky

Never been slapped on the bum during sex and I’ve never done it to anyone. If DH tried that on me I can guarantee that sex would stop and I’d be asking him WTF.

I think it’s a bit of a kink. Not a normal part of sex in my opinion.

Same here.

One person did try it with me (without checking first).

I was that shocked I smacked him back, across the face - most unlike me but it was just a reflex.
Anyway he got told in no uncertain terms and the sex ended there and then.

Nobody hits me. NOBODY.

Being slapped on bum was not a regular thing for us. But from behind was, Sometimes gentle sometimes really energetic. How do you rate it OP?

Did nothing for me OP.

I wouldn’t say it was kinky though - just part of “normal” sex.

Done properly, it sends a fizz of electricity directly to my fanny so I very much enjoy it. However after a few smacks its wears off and I’m not interested in paddles or being whipped!

He deserved it! Anything without prior discussion and consent is 100% abuse.

Pretty normal. I like it too, and doggy is the best position for a bum slap.

there is a line between things that need consent or prior discussion. why do some of you make war out of everything? slapped your bum in a passionate session? that is completely normal and most of us like it. you personally dont? then you tell him and move on. wanting to be always offended by everything Jesus Christ. like Marty mcfly unable to resist it when he is called a chicken -nobody calls me chicken, NOBODY. let's not pretend that these slaps are about abuse or hurting you, it is just a show of passion that does not hurt. I hope you who get into a frenzy because you get your bums slapped first have a 10page contract signed by the men where he signs every angle, moan and duration of a potential kiss as well. honestly some of you really just need to live life a little and stop being offended by everything. you can dislike things but turning everything into a fight. why live life like that?

actions, slaps and grabs that are bordering hurtful are the ones that need prior consent as kinky stuff.

As The Bard said, there is nothing either kinky or common, but thinking makes it so.

I’m fairly vanilla and I’ve never had this done, but it seems ok to me…I wouldn’t be shocked or nervous to try it or anything. It just hasn’t come up.

what is the appeal, please? Is it a physical thing or more of a psychological thrill?

As I mentioned, if its done in a way that stings i get a fizz of electricity directly to my fanny which is very pleasurable!
its not about pain or humiliation and after a few smacks it doesnt have the same effect and becomes uncomfortable so DH stops

I think it’s pretty normal, you need to do it to him as well

I'm in a similar boat to you @SexQueryx in that I'm nearly 40, been with my husband since we were both 19 and we've started to get a bit more adventurous the last few months.

We've always done "doggy style" (I also hate that term!) and sometimes a bit of light slapping on the bum, usually he only does it when I ask him to though. It's good, but I don't like anything too hard or for him to use anything other than his hand. But lots of people do and as long as it's all consensual with agreed boundaries, I think it's fine.

For example, I've realised recently that I like him to bite me, but he doesn't like it back so I don't do it to him, just ask him to do it to me.

For me it's a sensory pleasure, it just feels good.

Completely normal.
In fact I have getting my BF to spank me hard enough!