Cuckolding positive experiences?

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There's been plenty of threads on here about cuckolding and how its a terrible idea and it will ruin the relationship. But have any women actually done this and seen a relationship improvement as is often cities or is this purely a fantasy/ made up gibberish?

Well, I think once you open up that type of thing in your relationship, there's no going back to how it was. It also depends on the condition of your relationship now.

My wife has had the same lover for five years and it works for us. We're far more communicative now than we'd ever been before. How long it will last, I'm not sure. We're both in our late 50s.

Hi Op,

I asked my wife to try this and we did a couple of times and it lead to us trying swingers clubs and we a now regular swingers (as in meeting other couples, not every week).

Much like the poster above it did wonders for our communication, it boosted her confidence a lot taking pictures and having so many guys want her. It sounds clichéd but I'd say it saved our marriage and made us work on each other.

Does it have potential pitfalls, absolutely and some of it is a gamble as you won't know exactly how either of you will react or feel until you are in the moment.

Yes, its vastly different from where we were in 2020, in lockdown when all this began online to where we are now. We've never done swinger's clubs or anything like that, its always been this one man who really floats her boat. There have been many bumps in the road, but we've reached an even tempo with it these days.

you will get the 1-2 positive experience here but please know that the majority of the relationships of couples trying it does not survive it. it is because why was said above in the first post: once you open something it can never be undone. even if you decide it's not for you it has been done and it stays with you. strongly recommend keeping it a fantasy. it is very overrated and it is just stupid to think it can fix a relationship that has problems.

there is a reason you don't have pages and pages worth of positive experiences. asking about this pose or that toy, absolutely. this kink? the odd couple do it as a lifestyle but look at what professionals say - they see huge rise in divorce for people who go for opening up their marriage.

This is true. It'll change the dynamic of your relationship completely. It may be something you both want, but you might be making a fundamental error too, that's irreversable.

Everyone I knew (from my past life) that have tried this are no longer together, so I think that should answer you question.

This type of a fantasy/kink is as far from me as can be, I could never take part in something that opens up the intimacy I share with my wife, but I have a few friends who decided to jump into it. None of them are together today. One friend (F) is together with a guy she met through a website where she and her ex-husband were looking for a third person. Don't know if that's a success story or not...

I think you have a point…if you start out monogamous and open up, the pitfalls are likely. If you start out in an open relationship, that’s how your dynamic is from day one.

In a twist of irony, as far as I know, they are monogamous.

Good to hear it's been positive overall and you are both in a good place. We started off on fab but found the guys were quite unreliable, the last guy we met suggested we try a club, we went and got playing in the same room as another couple and kind of went from there.

Clubs aren't for everyone but we found they are a great night out even if you don't play with anyone else and the people are generally more friendly and open than any pub/nightclub you could walk into.

I can't personally speak about the crossing the rubicon moment as we have not looked back.

The pitfalls we have observed (swinging in general, not cuckolding) have been people who have not talked it through, been through the what ifs and not thought about how you handle jealousy and aftercare etc.

I wish the OP all the best whatever they do or don't do.

We've never been to a club and my partner has never really expressed any interest that way. Its always just been the one guy.

That said, I did initially struggle with the maintenance of boundaries. We agreed that there wouldn't be constant messaging outside organising meetings but that was quickly broken down by my partner in the excitement of it all. That gave me a bit of anxiety.

Nowadays, we have no boundaries as such. We know him really well and familiarity has led to more solid security. Today, I tend to worry about it ending, and if that happens where we go from there.