Male escorts, good or bad idea.

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I spilt up with my ex several months ago now and am enjoying the single life for a while and am not ready for another relationship. One thing I do miss though is regular sex. Although solo can be satisfying, I miss the real thing and have had limited luck with ONS or finding a FWB

I am in London for five days the week after next for some work training and I am seriously considering hiring a male escort, as I figured it's far enough away from home and, well, means some guaranteed action.
The trouble is I've never done anything like this before, so would like your thoughts on the good and bad (if any) of this idea?
I've got to admit the idea of a couple of nights with a fit younger guy who's up for anything and hopefully good at his job is feeling like just what I need at the moment.

Hotel bar, with a book and a glass of wine. They'll hit on you, don't worry.

Good idea

Stand by for some PMs 😀!

For various reasons I know quite a bit about female sex workers. I can’t say I have any real life experience or knowledge of male escorts apart from a few conversations with friends years ago. I guess if you look on a website and find someone you like go for it, but I find it hard to believe you can’t get offers from dating apps.

Is it you like the thrill of purchasing his time or the guarantee that you know you will have sex? Or do you feel more secure as this is likely a vetted process?

Isn't it basically just a 1-night stand you are looking for? Surely this is easy to come by?

I would have thought the odds of having good sex are much better with an escort than some random bloke who chats you up in a bar. His focus will be on your pleasure not his, he'll leave when you're done, is more likely to take sexual health seriously, and is probably in better physical shape.
I think it sounds like great idea!

You can buy a lot of things in life, but you cannot buy passion.

True but an escort might offer skill and be good at arousing the client to passion.
Life is a compromise, usually.

Ask him to send over his CV :)

Really? I have read books written by female escorts. They all said that they were bored and counting the minutes until it was over. They weren't focusing on anyone's pleasure

I suspect male escorting for female clients is quite different.

The only book I've read by a female escort was by Brooke Magnanti, and she seemed to enjoy her work.

I don't suspect it's any different. They are doing it from money. Its a transaction

I'll wager you could walk into any pub (or supermarket) and find far more men who would be happy to be paid for sex than women who would. Especially straight sex. It's a very different transaction for women and men.

Maybe. But for both sexes you need to add on that this, that it means regardless of what someone looks like, smells like or acts. Then maybe some men couldn’t deliver?

So l would think you are better off having sex with someone you like and fancy. Some of the benefits to be gained from “real sex” is enjoying the pleasure your lover is showing. And l don’t mean stupid porn like noises.

Surely a male escort that couldn't deliver wouldn't last very long? It's not like he could just lie back and think of England.
I think we've all faked enjoyment at some point.

As someone who travels for work most months, this just is not the case any more.
Seems that most men are now worried about approaching women at a bar like this, that most bars in hotels are full of (married) working men and no women, and generally it is really difficult to meet anyone in this way.
I have had some nice chats while at a gym or pool in a hotel, but none have led to anything.

I've thought about this to be honest if I ever found myself single i think I would

Strange. There are so many threads on mumsnet absolutely horrified at female sex workers and the men who use them. Now there are women on here absolutely fine about using make sex workers. Or not caring sout other women using them. Hmm

I'm sure many of those men are also doing sex work out of desperation for money. It is an imbalance of power and sex both ways

This thread shows that women can be just as cruel when thinking about their own sexual pleasure.

Welcome to Mumsnet.
Stick around long enough and you'll see similarly gendered opinions on infidelity, dating younger (wo)men, non-monogamy, sexual dysfunction...

Exactly what I was going to say! If this was a man asking the same question the responses would be VERY different.

on MN, men watching porn is horrifying, men paying for sex is disgusting yet a woman is absolutely allowed to pay for sex if she wants to.

hmmmmm

Not long now till your London work trip. Did you make a decision on this? And what were the factors that carried most weight in your decision?

This. Oh op, using sex workers is never the answer. I'm not judgemental or a prude but as this poster says if you were a bloke asking about using prostitutes you'd rightly be ripped to shreds.

So many hook up sites available. Just Google.

Yes I'm on the way there now. I decided that I might try hanging round in the hotel bar as suggested - you never know, but if that doesn't work I'm going to go for it with an escort, you only live once eh? I'll let you know how I get on.

Thanks for all the replies, they're appreciated.

Please let someone know where you are, you're really taking risks.
What's wrong with fwb sites where you at least strike up a chat first and get to know them before a shag?