the secret to mind blowing sex

[onetrickponee]

what is the secret to keeping the spark alive in a long relationship and still have some mind blowing sex ?

or accept that nothing lasts forever

Gets better the more you do it with the same person imho! As long as you communicate well.

Energy, tension, chemistry, passion, uninhibited, lust.......

I think the answer is always 'communicate, listen, understand and try to be on the same page'
It's bloody nerve wracking to 'put yourself out there' (oh do I dislike that phrase...) but sometimes you have to come out and say it - and say what you like, what pushes your buttons, what turns you on, what you desire, and share your experiences - what worked in the past and what didn't.
I can speak from personal experience, that doing this can be totally stomach churning - bc if you are laughed at, knocked back, rejected in that moment - boy can it mess you up. But it's a risk we all have to take right?
People aren't mind readers. It may look that way in sexy movies and TV where it all just happens perfectly, and so easily. Real life isn't TV. The dog jumps on the bed, your kids wake up, you lay back on the sofa and smush a Mars bar into the cushion, you knock your drink over, you struggle with his zip, or you can't undo her bra clasp for love nor money...
So I would say to keep the spark alive first of all you need to create that spark. That physical spark can be intoxicating, and so so exciting. But you have to maintain it. And that's where the communication and sharing part comes in.

Communication is the foundation

Fun!

Laughing together. x

100%. Talk about what turns you on, what your fantasies are. The best time to do this, in our experience, is when you are both highly aroused and any inhibitions are more likely to have been put aside.

Trying someone different...

Open communication x