Advice on arranging a first threesome as a couple

[DonkeyKon]

Husband and I are interested in having a threesome.

we have spoken about this and are both keen to try - at least as a one off. We are happy that if we don’t like it, it will just be a one off experience and are happy to be able to move on.

not fussed about MFM or MFF.

the pragmatic question is how should we try this out. I know there are swingers clubs but they seem a bit meh from what I read.

we were thinking of having a hook up while away on holiday eg Madrid or another European city. (Allowing us to have a ‘what happens in Madrid stays in Madrid’ attitude).

Advice welcome.

Mine was through Fab. Two adverts, online chat, met in person to see if we clicked. We clearly did click.

Edit: This was all BITD, at least 25 years ago, so maybe things have changed.

Had two experiences abroad with exes, we had spoke about it a few times but wasn’t planned on either occasion, first was with a barman, we were fairly drunk and he seemed a decent guy and he realised my gf was flirting with him abit and that I was ok with it and we arranged to meet for a drink and show us about when his shift finished and things escalated from that and it was honestly an incredible night for my gf. Other experience with another ex, we met a couple when away and got chatting by the pool and hanging out together a few nights and lots of drinking games and dares which things started to go further and further and all had a great time.
Neither was planned and maybe we were just lucky but maybe on holiday you might have more of a chance as people can be more relaxed and care free.

we had a couple of experiences , once on holiday and once planned through fab .
fun at the time but threesomes are best left as fantasies

I have been an additional M into a FM twice before. It is, in my experience, hard on the M and needs some clear comms and guidelines establishing first to make it work for all three. Happy to answer questions via pm if it’s helpful

you do you but one thing I would warn you about - you say "if you don't like it it will be a one-off experience", but it is hardly ever that simple. you open Pandora's box that can never be closed again. you open up something that was only for the two of you. and even if you dont do it again, you have already at that point and that is irreversible. as other pp before me I think some fantasies are better left as fantasies.

That was exactly my experience @LadyLavenderUrchin . Neither couple I joined lasted as was all too much after

There are some lovely swinger/adult clubs around and they can be relaxed respectful places to take those first steps. Do your own thing and just chat with people like you would in any social setting….. finding a nice place where you feel safe will help you find what you’re looking for and just being around others with similar outlook on life may actually be enough for you …..