Considering a no-strings arrangement with a younger colleague after divorce

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I’ll try to be brief, but context first … I’m going through divorce aged 50, very amicable after 20+ yrs we drifted apart and became flatmates. No sex at all for years. My work
colleague is much younger but going through divorce too, and we have helped each other through. Last night the topic turned to sex and how long it had been for both of us. I joked that it’s a shame he didn’t like larger, older ladies and he went serious and said he’d love to have sex with me. Cue an awkward silence and a change in subject. We have then had a WhatsApp exchange today, he apologised but reasserted that he would like a discrete, no strings sex arrangement. The conversation also got quite explicit which I really liked. So I am tempted. The advice I seek is: a) is the age difference a problem do you think b) how can have sex and it not get weird c) do any of you with FwB have particular rules to keep it casual and preserving friendship - frequency, staying over etc.

i am quite inexperienced and have not had sex in a very long time so please be gentle.

Nothing to beat a good time

We call it a "hormone rebalance"

Thanks ladies (or gents), I think we’re both quite comfortable that this is mutual fun rather than anything serious and currently booked in again in 2 weeks time. I’d forgotten how good it feels!

Fill in the gaps with some mutual masturbation over the phone. That's always fun and hot too.

@noego funny you should say but I did send my my first sexy pic last week. Just a bra and cleavage in exchange for a bulge in tight boxers. It helped with the anticipation but I’m not sure I could do more than that

Get him to tell you what he's going to do to you the next time you meet. It'll work believe me :)

He prefers me to tell him what to do!

Love the recent update. Good on you OP!

Thanks @flipflop76 It is is a leap for me in many ways, but so glad I did it.

Well done for going for it!

I wasn’t sure I could do NSA, turns out I can and it’s ok as we both are on same page

It sounds mind-blowing OP - and I hope it was!

This is a heartwarming thread. So glad it is working out for the OP.

Tell him you have been browsing lovehoney's website...and there are a few items that look interesting..

This is such a great thread. Any news?!

Hi @TicklishGreenLion We have been having a NSA sexual friendship for a few weeks now. It has been good as we’ve been able to prioritise fun and pleasure. He knows what I like and vice versa…the oral sex in particular has been amazing, and I’ve never used toys with a man before and that’s been really good.

How would you feel if you found out he had another couple of ladies like you on the go? Have you agreed to be up front with each other about that kind of thing, or would you rather not know?

@letshearitfortheboy We have been open about that. After a long marriage I’m not looking for a LT partner. He does want one but knows it’s not with me. We are good friends and open with each other, if he meets someone else we will go back to friends only. In that scenario I’d want a similar set up to this, but have no idea how I’d find it. The being friends has really helped with the trust needed to make this work