Is my wife finishing during sex, or already satisfied from foreplay?

[Octavianbonus]

After some advice and feel like I should know this but never experienced it with anyone else I’ve slept with and now it’s got me thinking. Yes I could ask my wife and it has been mentioned in conversation before but I feel like my wife just tells me what I want to hear…
Anyway, when we have sex it always starts with my playing with my wife until she has an orgasm then straight into sex with my on top (she’s not a fan of other positions) and once I’ve cum if it’s a few minutes or 15mins of PIV she will say that’s incredible and we are done. Foreplay isn’t really given much to me and focus is all on her (I’m ok with it as I like giving her the attention and find it a turn on seeing her turned on)
the question is, is it normal that she’s always finished at the same time as me or is she basically done at foreplay? Exes I’ve had even if I’ve cum early will either want me to carry on giving them more foreplay and once hard again carrying on until they are finished? What’s peoples thoughts and experience on this?

I'd guess that she orgasmed during foreplay and then just enjoys the sensation of sex but not orgasmed again. A lot of women don't orgasm through PIV.

It’s crazy you don’t ask your wife… I don’t get how you can be married to someone and not know! If she orgasms during foreplay she won’t orgasm again I doubt! Well I wouldn’t anyway! Just ask her!!

She just doesn’t like talking about sex, she doesn’t see it as an important part of our relationship and it’s just a nice to have when she’s in the mood for it. I’m different and sex is important, I want to make sure she enjoys it as much as I do. Sometimes she will say she’s had multiple orgasms from foreplay and PIV and I sort of just went with that, obviously I know that’s not all the time but she’s said it’s more often than not.

Well if she says she does then I guess you have to assume she does! If you broach the subject what does she say? I would hate to never talk about sex with my DH!

Foreplay (inappropriately named as it’s much more important than that) is sex. It is part and parcel of the same thing. Sex is not just male insertion. There is no need to compartmentalise things.

Her climaxing before you is not a problem.

The fact that you get her to orgasm first is very and also she says it incredible is even better.
Happy wife happy life!

I have never cum to a cick inside me. I could happily just have the foreplsy snd be done. I allow a man inside of me though because that’s how he likes to cum.

She has always said prior to us meeting she never had a boyfriend that was up for sex all the time, never had anyone speak about fantasies, sext or bought her sex toys or anyone that’s prioritised foreplay and her so it’s all quite a new experience for. Were late 30’s and she’s had a few exes but she said th sex was always quick and over so maybe it’s just from past relationships that things were never discussed and she’s not used to it.

Certainly not complaining 😂😏 was more out of curiosity than anything.

So you manage to make your wife orgasm quite quickly during foreplay and she tells you she often has multiple orgasms but she's never talked to you (or any previous partners) about sex or what she likes and she always tells you it was amazing? Are you sure she isn't faking for an easy life?

This is a tricky one, to be sure. If she really is achieving an orgasm before PIV and then enjoys you getting off by PIV afterwards, you're both ending up happy. If you think she's getting bored with you trying to finish, or eve finds it uncomfortable, that's a different story;.

My wife and I learned very early on that she was almost entirely in charge of her own orgasms and they rarely occurred by PIV, but also not what I would really have thought of as foreplay. Basically, once she felt she was in a sufficiently heightened state of arousal from whatever we'd been doing, she'd lie on top of me and grind against the base of my dick. Sometimes I'd end up inside her, but either way, she'd carry on until she achieved lift off. This could be quite quickly, or may take several minutes, with brief rest periods before she really got down to it. And she got really good gasping, breathless, heart pumping climaxes. She then needed a couple of minutes to cool down before she'd tell me she was ready for me to have my turn. She said she enjoyed seeing and feeling me getting my rocks off, although there was the odd occasion when I went on for too long, with no sign of finishing, when it was clear that she'd prefer me to stop. When that happened, she might try to finish me off manually unless I felt it was pointless, and then we'd call it a day.