Will not giving oral sex be a problem in future relationships?

[CleverOpalBalonz]

Newly single from a very long relationship. Basically I’m wondering if me not giving oral sex is going to be an issue?

My first experience of this was when I passed out drunk in a friend’s boyfriend’s car and woke up to his friend putting his penis in my mouth with a friend watching. Since then I’ve tried with ex a couple of times only then stopped as I didn’t like it due to the history.

Am I going to get over this with the right partner? Is it going to be an issue in any future possible relationships?

What a horrible thing to happen to you and I would hope any future partner would be sympathetic if you told him that your had been the victim of a crime.

I don't think not doing any particular sex any sex act has to be a deal breaker. Surely it depends on the your sexual relationship over all, as long as there's enough variety etc. Whether you could ever feel comfortable enough with a partner up lto give him oral I imagine is something only you can know, over time.

It's absolutely your prerogative to do, or not do, any sexual act at all.

However you were sexually assaulted and, regardless of future relationships, please seek some therapy/support for what happened. YOU deserve to heal and be freed of the weight of this awful memory, and you have the right to reclaim your autonomy and enjoyment of sexual intimacy with future partners.

It's absolutely horrific to have been sexually assaulted by anyone, but a "friend" and another "friend" who sits back and watches!!! I'd also encourage if you to report the incident to the police, they should be held accountable! They may have done this before. Or may do this again, or more, to some other poor girl.

Im sorry this happened to you, it wasnt your fault. Xì

Don't do anything you don't want to do. If it's a deal breaker for them then so be it ❤

Honest answer is to some it will be important and it would be a "deal breaker" for them. But that's not really the point.
You've been through something very traumatic. I'd never want anyone to do something they didn't want to do, let alone do something that they have previously been subjected to as part of an assault.
If its that important to someone that it takes priority over what you went through then they aren't the right person.
You'll find someone who cares more about how it effects you that receiving it and you will find other pleasurable things that you can do together.
Make sure you have had the relevant support for the trauma you went through 💐

Yes it could be an issue… but if it is and they don’t understand or /and try to pressure you into doing it then they’re not the right person for you.

If it's a deal breaker, it's their issue not yours. The right person would never want you to do anything you don't feel comfortable with.