Sex drive and perimenopause

[PennyMacs]

I wanted to ask whether other women have struggled with sex during perimenopause or menopause?

I’m finding it really difficult at the moment. On top of that, I’m parenting an autistic teenager and caring for my elderly mother, and I’m honestly exhausted.

My sex drive is almost nonexistent, but I feel a growing pressure to have sex with my husband. It never used to be an issue, but recently it’s started to feel like he doesn’t understand just how much perimenopause has affected me, both physically and mentally. He has the attitude that I am somehow duty bound to give him sex because I am his wife.

Has anyone else gone through anything similar, and if so did you find anything that helped?

Mine has gone the other way with perimenopause; unfortunately my DH couldn’t be less interested so I have the complete opposite problem to you 😬.

I’m same as user33538216. Horny hormones through the roof and husband not that bothered. Maybe averaging once per week. This happened when I came off all hormonal contraceptives so I’m cold turkey as far as hormones go and my drive is rising. Hopimg
indont reach a peak then slump.

Same as above. Libido through the roof - constantly fantasising. My DP is at the can’t be arsed with sex stage of life. It’s driving me mental. Don’t think I’ve ever been craving sex so much

You sound exhausted OP, are you prioritising yourself? Is your husband pulling his weight? I’m peri and my libido is through the roof. I’m single and trying to ignore the urge at the minute and I thought that was fairly normal. How old are you?

My sex drive has gone AWOL, taking my orgasms with it. If I had known they'd stop being so enjoyable and easy to come by, I'd have made sure I had far more of then while I still could! 😢

Sky high and nowhere to go