Just that really. Never felt sexy because I just don’t think my figure ‘fits’, and I highly doubt it can be a turn on for my boyfriend, although he obviously would never say anything.
And please don’t come at with ‘sexiness is in the mind/an attitude’ - we all know that physical appearance does play a large part, and that’s just human nature. I would like my DP to like how I look, and I don’t think that’s a crime.
I grew up in the late 90s/00s, at the height of the lollipop (big boobs, straight hips, skinny legs) body shape era, full of lads mags and Page 3. I’m the opposite of that - I’m thin, tiny waist/flat tummy (no, not a humble brag), but small breasts and wide hips relative to my frame. So I just have always felt like the polar opposite of the ‘sexy’ girl.
I wasn’t silly enough to believe that no man would ever fancy me, but I was careful of who I dated because I didn’t want to ever be a last choice or just used.
Anyway, all of that was just to say that I don’t feel sexy like most women, I imagine, do with their DP/DH. I just feel pathetic and silly ‘dressing up’ in nice lingerie for him, because I don’t have a proper cleavage (a big draw for most men) and it seems lingerie is made to enhance boobs… my bf has asked me to wear ‘something nice’ but I just don’t feel it 😌
Anyone been in the same boat?