ONS advice in 30s.

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So I split with my husband of six years (10 years together) a couple of months ago. It's all good and was for the best.
The one thing I really miss though is regular sex. I'm constantly horny and think about it all the time.
I'm definitely not ready for a new relationship, but would dearly love a ONS. I'm not sure if it's just me or perhaps my age, but it doesn't seem nearly as easy as it used to be
I don't really want to go down the online route. I had a couple of bad experiences before I was married - and it's knid of nice to check out the goods in person too.
I've been on a few girls night out and got chatting to some nice guys, and flirting, I'm even dressing more provocatively, but at the end of the night they just say goodbye and go home, which leaves me even more horny and frustrated.
Don't get me wrong, I want them to go and not get attached - I'd just prefer they shagged my brains out first lol.
So come on girls, any advice for a sister in her 30s looking for a bit of action?

Your DMs will be blowing up with offers!

Be prepared to get DMs full of typos from horny geezers and creeps...

Uhm. I know I am not a "girl", but my advice would be to just be forward? You are not trying to look for a serious relationship, why not approach someone you like and be forward? Ideally, if you know the person is single too...

Haha, they already are. They must have missed the bit where I said I wasn't interested in on-line.

If only it were that easy in real life.

How forward would you be? Just tell them I'm looking for sex? And what if they agree but are attached and conveniently forget to mention it?

I think it's safe to say most of them will be attached - whether you meet them online or IRL. There isn't a way to police it tho - I guess it's a chance you take if you're looking for a ONS.

Go to a swingers club. You will be very popular!

Hm.. I am thinking "very". Exactly. But I get the headscratcher part... It's possibly someone you never met before, but there's no way to know that he would be honest about not having a partner already. Maybe pseudo-strangers? So maybe a guy you don't exactly know - closely - but still know enough of him, maybe? It is tough, I guy realistically you'd have to chance it, and hope he wouldn't have a wife or girlfriend at home.... Otherwise your pool would be too small.

You can throw a coin as a woman and hit ten men who would be happy to have sex with you - unfortunately the quality of these men is another thing altogether. Get on Tinder, you’ll get lots of offers there 😅

Thanks, it's good to get a male perspective. The pseudo-stranger idea is a good one, but I live in a fairly small town so I'd rather stay away from anyone I know, I don't want to be getting that type of reputation.

But make sure you have deep extra cover....

What is the world coming to if a woman in her thirties can't get a good sorting out?

Ramp the flirting up a bit. Lean in closer. Arm touches.

If that all goes well, my line is I am coming home with you tonight, aren't I? Unless they say it first.