Having sex after divorce

[Sally333]

I am separated nearly divorced from my ex. I have met someone who is really wanting to have sex.
Thing is, I’m really nervous. Haven’t had sex in about 3 years and lacking in confidence etc. But other part of me is dying for sex as had been in an abusive, loveless marriage for a long time.
Just really nervous. Am I overthinking?
What is it like having sex after you have separated/divorced?

Communicate your needs, build trust, when your ready..... it's just like riding a different bicycle.

It’s definitely going to be different hopefully in a good amazing way !
I think you definitely need to communicate this either face to face or by text
From a man’s point of view he will hopefully go incredibly slow and tenderly
and be all about pleasuring you
I really hope you have a lovely experience

Been there. Done that. Albeit more than twice as long.
Whilst I can't promise it will be the same for you, being with someone who actually likes you and wants to have sex with you for a change has the potential to be absolutely amazing and life affirming.
Enjoy!

I didn't tell the guy he was my first after my divorce, but I think he worked it out. He was bloody lovely and I felt extremely satisfied afterwards.

My sister told me I'd cry afterwards, as she did.

I didn't!

So 2 different experiences there.

I took a very matter of fact approach that he was the first person to see me naked in a long time. I decided to project confidence, even though I wasn't feeling it. Embrace the nerves as much as you can.

And have fun!

100% this ^^
being with someone who actually wants you makes all the difference

The first time might not be the best time just because you are working each other out but then you might be pleasantly surprised especially if he is the opposite to your ex! Echo other poster of how amazing it is to feel desired after years of feeling like a pain for wanting sex

This ❤️

You deserve to enjoy a satisfying physical moment.
Dont overthink it .
And if you want something during the act , just say it and 99% of the time I bet your new partner will oblige .
Have fun. Enjoy the new