Should we name and shame?

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This may be a better post for the website forum admin page, but as I suspect it is disproportionately relevant to the Sex board, I feel it has a place here.
(MN admin, please feel free to move it if you see fit.)

Who would be in favour of an open ended thread titled "I just received an unsolicited PM from a male user, with no posting history on MM, in response to something I posted on the Sex board"
(I realise it's not the snappiest of titles, so I'll open that to the floor for discussion.)

I know Admin are very good at deleting accounts when miscreants are reported, but I wonder if a visible deterent might ease their workload.

I have a few PMs from men, one today funnily enough, and when searching their name they have no posting history. So not sure if a thread would be mega helpful, as I tend to delete and block them anyway.

If they get reported and the account is banned they can just set up a new account and PM from there, but happy to contribute if it helps.

'Unsolicited PM from a male user' covers a lot of bases – from the sleazy and unacceptable to a friendly, respectful desire to engage with a thread in a less public way.

It would be unfair to those in the latter category to name and shame them as if they're perverts, even if they haven't said anything inappropriate. Getting somebody banned when they've done nothing wrong would be disproportionate and unfair.

If you do start a thread along the lines you suggest, maybe clarify that it's about sleazy and inappropriate PMs.

@PotteringPondering I'm not trying to brand anyone a pervert. And I understand that some people might be ... let's call it shy. But if you're opening salvo on MN is a PM about sex, when you've posted ABSOLUTELY NOTHING else, especially when the question could easily have been asked publicly ...?

Was it from Jason? 🤣

I dont think so

85% yes....

.... is it happening?

I’ve seen posters named and shamed on here on the past. I don’t see the point unless they’re a regular poster on the board - the ones who send sleazy unwanted messages about sex are not the type who hang around in my experience. Any man I’ve PM’d with in the past as also been a user of the board, and they’ve always been polite. The ones who aren’t disappear fairly swiftly when they don’t get what they want. It’s anonymous- they’re not going to give a damn if someone else posts their username on the board. They’ll either name change or get a new account when the urge to send more explicit PMs overcomes them.

Should we start a thread. “I’ve had an unsolicited message from a female from the sex forum”.

I’ve had a good few of them. I even met one user. If you don’t like them press delete.

@GentlemanJay I'm very much in favour of gender-flipping to test opinions etc. So yeah, go for it. Beter still, let's make it gender neutral.
FWIW I'll happily bet my salary against yours that unsolicited messages from men, with zero posting history, trying to solicit titilation by DMing off the back of Sex board topics, greatly outweigh those from women. If the posters in question were active MNers, and their comments on the topic were public, it would be very different in my book.