New relationship

[NeedAChange77]

Think I am overthinking.

Been seeing someone 11 weeks, hes 51 and I am 44. At the beginning he struggled to get an erection. Things are better but we dont have much free time for sex. He has only finished once and did it himself. He said this will come in time...

He never seems to get hard when we kiss or cuddle, is this normal? I would like it more but kids etc get in the way.

I am not putting pressure on so he feels relaxed. I really like him but this is new to me as never been with someone 7 years older.

His age doesn’t really matter as such- he might be struggling with nerves or some ED maybe - have you mentioned this at all?

I dont want to say too much at the moment as trying to be relaxed and not put any pressure on him. He did mention pills a few weeks ago but nothing since and he has kept an erection more. He did say tonight he isnt physically fit and needs to lose a stone and I wonder if he is nervous or not confident.

Probably nervous and a bit unfit - some weight loss and fitness training would probably make all the difference in the bedroom - both in terms of internal confidence and actual performance

Sorry, but this is just wrong. The older men get, the more likely they are to have ED.
Age IS relevant.
But so are fitness*, stress, confidence, sexual history and any number of other things.
If his erections are improving as you say, enjoy the fact that you're on an upwards curve. And enjoy the intimacy you share. There's plenty of fun that's not dependent on PIV.

*Getting fit will help both in terms of getting better blood flow for his election and testosterone levels.

Men can suffer ED at any age for any reason- so no I’m not wrong-

I had ED in my 30’s with a young family a big mortgage and redundancy and it was all in my mind, that why I said age doesn’t really matter - as can happen at any time, those of us who have a penis will know this

It CAN happen at any age.
It DOES happen more often in later years.
It's just like arthritis - you can have it before you go to school, but you're far more likely to have it after you retire.
"40% of men over 40 ..." isn't just hyperbolic marketing.