Exploring sex in a new way

[knowingme]

Had to NC for this.

i went out last night and met a man, got on really well with him, so much so he booked a hotel room there and then. Went to said room and were all over each other in seconds.
with my ex we were always missionary, nothing more. So wow what a night where I’m shown different positions by this man, I never knew I could squirt or orgasm so many times.

now thinking back on it, I feel somewhat let down by my past, I had all these years to grow sexually but was limited by what my ex wanted. I’m in my 40’s and only now am beginning to understand myself.

has anyone else been in this situation and how do you not hold regret?

my way right now is to fully explore myself sexually and not just with one man as I did in the past. I want to fully find out what my limits are and how far I’m willing to go. Never will I be tied down to one man ever again!

Fully exploring would never be regretted, would it? And don't rule out "being tied down" you might enjoy both sides of that in a literal sense!

I guess it’s more that I’m now in my 40’s and had this sexual awakening, would rather it was in my 20’s.

haha yes I may enjoy that!

Its always baffled me how people don't know about good sex. Glad you've finally been awakened OP

I've completed let go and enjoying my sexual life. Hubby has let me play with others and life is amazing at 53

@Mysticguru stupidly I thought I was having ‘good sex’ with my ex, so crazy!

I'm on with the A to Z of sex :)

Plenty of time for more exploration! Glad you had an amazing night, hope you can lol forward to the future, rather than regretting the past 😊

This Is a big step OP and I’m so glad you’ve had this awakening! You move on by living and doing the things your 20 year old self would love you for! No more bad sex with men who aren’t interested in worshipping you. The best sex I’ve had is with men who absolutely adore women and the female form - there are a lot out there! Just make sure you’re safe 😊

Think most women have that “awakening” moment at some point or another. Fortunately I was in my early twenties, unfortunately I was married and realised it had to end.
The ones that don’t or haven’t you can usually spot a mile off.

Enjoy, carefully, the new you x

Go to a swingers club and enjoy

As well as the better sex, Congratulations on that btw. You might find that you build a deeper more affectionate relationship in your everyday lives.
I discovered a new partner after an exciting date that was more likely to be a ONS.

I found great sex 5 years ago when I was 46. It’s still amazing 5 years later. We have tried a lot of new things together. When I see him I get wet immediately and he is hard. Sometimes it’s as immediate as the front door is closed.