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Feeling I missed out on a fulfilling sex life with DH

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Missindecisiveness · 17/03/2026 16:12

I met my DH young, when I met him, he was inexperienced sexually, so we never had an explosive sexual relationship, during his 30’s he seemed to be less interested in sex and it’s pretty much how our sex life has always been.
I’m getting older and I can’t help but think I’ve missed out on a fulfilling sex life and actually I’ve not had the sex I could have, I also had very limited sexual experience, so in some ways, I don’t really know what I’m missing, or if I’m missing much at all.
Does anyone else feel this way?

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SeventiesKid · 28/04/2026 13:54

Winterbolt · 27/04/2026 01:46

Oh ya

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Yeah, that would probably be me!

StarlightLady · 28/04/2026 15:08

SeventiesKid · 28/04/2026 13:52

I married ‘safe’ too. I had waited until I was 19 to lose my virginity to a man quite a bit older (he was a charmer and very, very attractive). He seduced me, I guess, and being the inexperienced, naive young girl I was…well, it was hardly romantic (in the front seat of a car). Over very quickly. I was besotted with him though. Unfortunately for me, I had been played. His brother told me he had a heavily pregnant girlfriend in their home town. That was that! I was devastated and felt used and, well, stupid. I retreated to university to get over it - it took quite a while! I met my ex-hubby as I was leaving university. Again, a double digit age gap. Very nice man, safe, trustworthy but I found him a bit boring (he dressed like an old man) and didn’t turn me on. I married him, stupidly! Nice man, as I said, and clearly adored me but it just wasn’t there - the sexual chemistry. Sex with him was boring and predictable. We ended up in a sexless marriage. Years went by. Years!!

Menopause - I woke! I still couldn’t go near him though. I ended up in an affair (I ended the marriage though as soon as I knew what was happening). Wonderful sex. Passionate! Went on for years but fulfilment wasn’t there. He wouldn’t be mine. Ever. That was that. I ended up alone. I regret my life choices (I am early 50’s now) and wish I’d tried a few (sounds bad, I know) but I was a bit of a goody 2 shoes! Being the only girl in a family of boys meant I was very protected in a lot of ways too but, sadly, not enough.

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50s is not too old to sail into the sunrise as opposed to the sunset. As for trying a few, when l first became sexually active (l don’t subscribe to this misogynistic “lost virginity” rubbish, l didn’t lose anything), l tried 2 in the same week; non regrette rien!

willowstar · 17/05/2026 10:20

@StarlightLady you say that, but as a 52 year old attractive energetic woman I haven't met a man for the two years I have been single and can't see it happening. Single men about my age are very rare and attractive ones with energy and passion even rarer I am finding. Anyway not the point of the thread, just to say it isn't as easy as all that, at least for me.

SUperchange · 17/05/2026 10:33

tanoshi · 18/03/2026 06:57

Some of the wildest nights of sex I've had have been with inexperienced sexually deprived women who just for one night let themselves and their inhibitions go.

That's nice dear.

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