Not ready for a full blown relationship but maybe some no strings- how to approach this

[Edna69]

Out of a very long relationship since last year. There someone on the scene who seems lovely etc and keen but theyre 3 years into being single. I feel im not there yet. I almost feel like im cheating on my ex but then give my head a wobble and know im not.

thing is im really up for it atm and wonder if its just an itch to scratch. Im enjoying being single. Should i suggest it and if so how to phrase it?!

Maybe corny but do you fancy a coffee sometime soon.

Good luck

You’re not cheating at all, if you’re both single then there’s no problem, you have needs, enjoy it and embrace the freedom

Maybe i just need to get it out of my system! It might become more regular i guess or might be a definite no not interested. Ive not done “it” for such a long time (probably 5 years) im terrified of being naked in front of someone new! Ive only been with one person ever which was my ex

Just relax, everything will be fine and he probably feels the same way and would probably be really excited for the experience and wouldn’t into it half as much as you are.
just go at your own pace and as long as your safe and happy have fun!

You don't have to get naked from the get go. Build up to it. Wear nighties or pj's for the first few occasions. It never bothered me when I've been with women who needed to adjust to new situations.

Oh lordy, im going to have to psyche myself up. Yes i think a coffee is a good start. I just dont want to get into a relationship again, i dont mind seeing someone ad hoc. Yes i need to remember he’s probably also feeling self conscious too and doesn’t sound like hes shagging around iykwim 🤷🏻‍♀️🙈🤭

Just be very clear that you’re not looking for a relationship and everything will be fine

I agree, just go with the flow and stop worrying and over thinking

Just start slow and build up from there. It helps that you guys know each other so you could go out for a meal etc and see where the evening takes you