Help me be sex ready (it’s been a while!)

[NewJoyofSex]

In short, I split from my long-term partner last year. We co-parent well and have a good relationship. However, we’ve had a sexless relationship for over seven years. Prior to that, our sex was fairly sparse and vanilla. He was quite traditional and inhibited - wasn’t really open to discussing sexual likes / interests etc..

Anyway, I’ve moved on and met someone new. It’s been a lovely, slow-burn connection due to distance. We’re now at the stage of meeting up and both very excited! However, I’m also quite nervous. It’s been a long time and I’m worried about getting down to business.

Has anyone else been in this position and got any advice?

Talk to them about how your feeling, your wants, your expectations and your boundaries.

Take it slowly and expect a learning experience as you get to know each others intimacies.

I’d keep your expectations low as you’ve not met yet. The chemistry may not be there in person, but hopefully it will be!

I don’t think you can get “sex ready”, just relax and enjoy yourself.

Good luck.

“We’re now at the stage of meeting up”? Do you mean you haven’t met him yet? Or have l read this wrong?

l’m not one to hang about when l want something and not backward in coming forward but if l have read this right, take it steady.

To clarify - we have met and knew each other as friends (quite a few years ago) as friends, but were both in relationships at the time. There is a clear attraction, so I am not worried about that. We're now living at a long distance and have home responsibilities, hence have been taking it very slowly.

Oh l see. Change the bedding and full throttle then. You know the ropes. Just tell him what you need. And condom!

Sex is like riding a bike (except for the lack of pedalling!) - you never forget how to do it. I'm assuming you had experience of better sex prior to your long term partner? The excitement and nervousness with a new partner is normal.

Don’t forget that he may well be just as nervous as well - to go steady and don’t be too worried if things don’t go perfectly 1st time around

Don’t forget to wear a helmet in case you fall off 😂

Waxing, clean sheets, some nice lingerie and candles. That would be on my prep list.

Man here, but I've been in the same situation. I was nervous, but once the passion gets going, it all falls into place!