Bisexuality?

[Perfectstranger71]

I am late 50s and I think I’m finally figuring my sexuality out. I’ve NC. Also wasn’t sure where to post. I’ve only had sex with men but my enjoyment of it has been variable tbh. I haven’t had sex with a woman, I haven’t really met one I could have sex with but I fantasise about it. I realised recently that I could be bisexual even if I haven’t acted on it. That’s a revelation to me and I find it quite empowering.

The other thing I’ve realised is that I am, I think, a giver. I don’t particularly enjoy receiving. And again, I’ve realised that’s ok. And it actually is ‘a thing’ (service top?) and it’s ok to have an intimate life based on this preference.

I have felt ‘wrong’ my whole life and to suddenly realise these things is astonishing to me.

Im not sure why I’m posting this but I really need to share it with someone!

First step: share with strangers.

Next step: share with someone in real life!

Good luck.

There is another thread running on here at the moment about people finding their bisexuality in later life. You might want to join in!

it’s lovely to hear you’ve found out this element of yourself!

(I haven’t heard service top used in a non-kink context before by the way, just in case you lead with that with someone else!)

Ha ha! I think I’m so new to this I have no idea. I just read about ST and it totally rang a bell. I will look for the other thread. Thanks.

There are other terms for what you're describing if Service Top is just kink related. Stone top is an older term for someone who likes to give but not be touched, also 'touch me nots'

You say enjoyment with men has been variable and describe yourself as a giver rather than a receiver. Could it be that you have been receiving something far from the best?

l discovered my bi side in my 30s, looking back it had always been there, l prefer to see myself as “sexual”, no prefix required. Understanding your own sexuality can be both blurred and complex, I think you would benefit from not giving yourself even more labels. Just have your body in communication with your head.

basically Im very confused. Full stop.