Blowjob

[Ollie7654]

NC for this post, over the last month or so my wife has completely changed her enjoyment of giving a blowjob. When we first met many years ago they were incredible and everything and more you’d want from a blowjob and as years went on they completely changed and less enthusiastic and to be honest not enjoyable. I would be told to hurry up and just no effort. I even said if she doesn’t like doing it then no point doing something she doesn’t want to do but asked what changed and she basically said she’s never liked doing it but knew how much I enjoyed her doing it and no women really enjoy giving a blowjob no matter how good they are. So for the last few years I’ve never really asked but if we haven’t been able to have sex that week (unfortunately we have to try and schedule it in due to having older teens who are constantly home) she will offer a handjob and to cum in her mouth for ease of mess 😂.
Anyway, over the short recent period she’s started offering a blowjob without me mentioning it and to be honest they have gone back to the same as when we first met and mind blowing to the point I’m thinking about it even days after.
Ive always loved oral both giving and receiving so it’s not one way. Sex went through a dry patch over a few years where it would be a handful of times a year but again that’s increased to 2/3 times a week so I’m not really sure what has changed in her to find this new found love of sex and even dressing in tighter clothes and abit more revealing, obviously not complaining as I love it and frequently compliment her on it.

Eurgh

What’s your question?

It seems like everything is fine now?
Are you concerned she’s cheating?

Sometimes I wonder if she’s cheating, I do encourage her to go out and see her friends and do things and she has been doing that more frequently. When things change quite dramatically I guess you do wonder why but I don’t really want to ask incase it goes back to how it was 😂. Could be a million reasons I guess but was looking to see if anyone else has had similar.

It can be a bit of a red flag but it doesn’t always need to be.

It might be that she’s just genuinely trying to make more effort or maybe she had been feeling too tired and has now got some some of he’d energy back.

I would just keep an eye out for any other red flags that seem out of the ordinary but not be paranoid about it.

I haven’t noticed any specific red flags and she has mentioned that some of her friends have quite controlling partners who complain about looking after the kids when they go out or just get annoyed about their wives going out which I’m not bothered about at all so maybe it’s a combination of realising I’m not like them. Not saying that’s purely the reason but maybe she’s realised I do my equal share, she’s mentioned she might be peri and someone mentioned that can increase sex drive aswell.

I was going to say is she peri menopausal and has renewed pleasure and increased lobido in that department.

How old is she OP? I'm guessing this is a peri surge so enjoy it while it's here.

Something is up . Hopefully renewed vigor and vitality for her wanting a better connection with you .
But something is up.

I tracked that sh*t immediately and caught my ex cheating .

We can assume the best intentions in people but bottom line , you never know

She’s early 40’s

She’s been seeing her PT more frequently who always trains her at our house. She’s lost weight and toned up quite a bit recently aswell so maybe that has a part to play in it. She’s commented how a few people have mentioned she looks great and that her bum looks 😂

Why this reaction?

i always wonder if the men that come on to a womans forum for sex advice are genuine.

You mean if they are genuine men? Or genuinely looking for advice?

On another Thread women complained about a particular man dominating their chat. Two asked if it were possible to have a women only group.

I mean, Are they being real or is it a sexual kink to come on here asking for "sex advice". No offence, it is called mumsnet. The target audience are women.

None taken... It is a fair question, given how many times I read stories of some creeps, pretending to be women, or saying some weird shit. I still can't fathom why anyone would use a forum like this for "kinks". There is so much 18+ stuff online at the fingerstips of anyone, really... So why here? This is literally a white/grey forum with paragraphs of comments from people, how on earth does anyone translate that in their mind to be kinky on any level, is beyond me.... I can see they exist, I just don't get the thinking. So dumb.
I personally like the space where people can exchange thoughts, express views, have discussions that is not segregated by gender or anything... I first came here about 6-7 years ago when I was asking about people's experiences with night terrors of their kids, and since then I enjoyed thought-provoking chats of all kinds around here...
But I agree, it would be great to filter out those who are just faking or being creepy. Ruins the experience for everyone.

Im not calling you a creep by the way please dont be offended.
I read your post and thought that may be the case... that this was another perverted thread.
I do think prehaps this site should be renamed as the audience members are of both sexes.
What typically is a forum for "mums" seeking advice, is now used by so many more. I have no issue with this, but with the sex stuff for example, and male input I do wonder if its a little odd.
Nonetheless, I do hope you figure it all out.
Have a great day.

Oh nono, I didn't think you were referring to me. I wasn't even part of this thread by the time you commented, so I know, of course.. I just expressed that I am puzzled just as much by such things.

Sorry muddled with the op.
😅

She might just genuinely enjoy giving blow jobs now. Her recent weight loss and compliments from people have probably helped her to feel good about herself and possibly more sexual.

I’ve recently started enjoying giving them to my DH. My mouth didn’t go near that part of him for 15-20 years after doing it sometimes in the early days of our relationship. Just didn’t want to and it grossed me out. Now he knows if he’s freshly showered and I’m interested then I’ll probably go down on him. Not grossed out now as long as he’s freshly showered. He knows that I have particular requirements around cleanliness and body fluids and is happy to accommodate that, especially with what he gets in return!

FWIW I’m mid 40s and perimenopausal. I don’t know if that’s got anything to do with it or not.

@Ollie7654 Enjoy it, and make sure you’re giving back to your wife sexually in whatever way she enjoys.

DW stopped giving blow jobs over a year ago, no obvious reason, she’s never said she doesn’t like doing it, but she’s drifted away from so much sexually so it’s not surprising. If she suddenly started again, I’d probably be suspicious over the reason, but preference changes, OP should probably just appreciate it rather than worrying why unless there are other red flags

Have you thought about talking to your wife about it?

I personally go through phases. I’m in my blowjob era atm and my DH is loving it. Then we could go a month without a blowjob.

In my experience when a woman is seeing or intrested in someone else she become more distant and not closer, purely because she has got something or someone else in her mind.
Also the fact that she lost weight and is looking after herself might have helped her getting her sex drive back.
Another guess could be that maybe you have changed to her eyes, in a way where she desires you more.
Has anything changed in you that could have cause the spark?