Sex whilst chatting

[Pigeonpoodle]

My DP and I do this all the time… Sex often isn’t all about focussed on the “finishing line”, but just about closeness. We’ll often lazily have PIV sex in bed whilst just chatting about crap. It’s great and we find it very bonding!

But is this unusual? I feel like sex is seen by most people as very goal-oriented, and all about pumping away until orgasm.

Btw, we do have sex a lot, and are very comfortable around each other’s naked body…. And we do also have plenty of energetic shagging too with orgasms.

I don’t imagine many people walk around Sainsbury’s turned on to an extent they have an erection. Not in my local one anyway……

Waitrose though - another matter entirely.....

Yes, we also do have lots of hard, fast and passionate sex with no chatting… but sometimes when we’re tired or already had sex that day, we’ll just want to connect and have lazy sex that’s about the connection not focussed on reaching orgasm….

Generally speaking. If we’re in bed together, 95%+ of the time we end up having sex, even if we’re not that horny, we both love it. As for being aroused, we can be relaxed aroused rather than super-horny aroused, so the mechanics of sex is ok.

And by chat, we don’t chat about Sainsbury’s shop or the tap that needs fixing, it’s more playful and flirty chat interspersed with kissing.

I sort of get this. We have sometimes spooned with PIV and talked casually about things. But not a deep conversation. The closeness of spooning usually keeps him erect.

Same here. Not for me OP 😂

But I’m not shagging you so that’s fine.

Enjoy!

I still get surprised on here by people being almost taken aback by the idea that there are different ways to have sex. Or react as if if someone mentions something they like, that that's all they ever do.