Do women really enjoy penetration?

[Misosoup2]

As time has gone on I've started to really think about my sexuality. Doing so has made me realise I do NOT like penetration. Yes, it's nice for about 5 minutes but anything after that becomes boring and usually ends up leaving me feeling tender or painful down there afterwards. I, like many women on the planet, cannot finish through penetration. I wouldn't even say it's pleasurable as the vaginal canal doesn't even have any nerves! If I was to list a few reasons as to why I feel like this it would be:

I can't be bothered with the aftermath of going to the toilet/clean up/making sure I don't get a UTI

Thrush and UTI risks.

Pregnancy

It genuinely doesn't feel like much

It doesn't turn me on or do anything for me? Just feels like a lot of friction/pressure

It actually feels very intrusive

Maybe I'm the only one who feels entirely disconnected to my vagina but after years and years of just constantly thinking sex wasn't sex unless it included penetration i'm now starting to realise how male orientated the actual act is and how unimportant it is in the grand scheme of sex. There is so much more to sex than penetration and I feel like all over sexual possibilities gets lost in the male desire to climax. Surely I'm not the only one who feels it's massively overhyped??

I do enjoy penetration. I like the closeness and we always have alot of foreplay. Sometimes just foreplay. There's a reason i married him!

Yeah, who's going to tell him they're faking it just to get him off them? Good grief.....

@Misosoup2i agree with you that oral is my favourite.

however, I do also love piv.

a lot of it is probably more psychological though rather than the actual physical feeling of it.

I do enjoy the physical feeling of it….but that’s because it’s my partner. The feeling of a dildo or whatever just doesn’t compare.

the combination of the physical feeling and the psychological aspect of it seem to equal more than the sum of their parts.

I agree! If things were that simple we’d become excited at the insertion of a tampon!

Have you always had this pain OP? How old are you? Because a lot of women don't know that as we get older the vagina atrophies and this is reversible through the use of vaginal oestrogen (which is very safe to use and a lifesaver).

I'm not saying it will make you enjoy penetration, because I personally find it super mid, but I started getting penetration pain even with lube due to premature menopause, and now that I'm using the gel that pain has disappeared. It also helps with other things such as increased UTIs, and frankly it pisses me off that women aren't told about something that affects so many and can be fixed so easily. But yes, penetration is overrated. I like the closeness of it though, so when I could no longer do it I was sad. Pleasure wise however it's not gonna get me places.

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I agree with @NinaOakley

I just don’t feel satisfied without it. We’ve had “sex” without penetration, have a great orgasm through oral, or 69, and then still feel like I’m not quite “done”.

@Misosoup2 I think you have got unlucky with your men. They sound selfish. You probably need more foreplay and him going down on you first so you orgasm before any piv takes place.

We don’t have penetrative sex very often, but it’s always enjoyable. But there is lots of foreplay first and plenty of lube.

IME yes is the answer to the question. However there are caveats depending on the woman in question.
The last FWB would enjoy PIV from the get go, virtually as soon as I had my pants off.
Others were a slow build up with lots of foreplay. Knowing your partner and their sexual preferences is the obvious advice.

Just have him go down on you exclusively for a couple of weeks. Problem solved

Well.
its the quickest way to bring me to orgasm and the only way i have multiple orgasms.
oral is great but a very distinct 2nd and i could very easily live without it.

I enjoy all sorts of non piv and I'd say over half the times we have sex it doesn't end up with it but I do love it. The fullness, the submissive element of it. I don't ever cum from it but I've usually already been seen to so it's not a problem.

I didn't like it at first, but eventually we found the right kind of lube and with plenty of prior stimulation, I now love it. Lube really changed things for me. I'd previously thought I was "lubricated" enough through foreplay and didn't need lube, but how wrong I was!!